Originally Posted by RevlisZero
I know what you mean. It's really frustrating that I think about it so much but I can't really talk about it with people because they don't seem to care. I wish I could talk to people about typology but they would probably think I'm weird for being so obsessed with it.
Ditto.
Double-ditto!
And the theory explains why. For me, it's being in such a heavy S environment. Everyone talks about more immediately "down to earth" stuff, such as day to day living, sports, stuff they buy, etc. So I mention something like type, and it's like "yeah, OK".
Well, just this week, I decided to visit my old college town, to see how it has changed in two decades. A couple of friends from N had moved down there, so I hooked up with them. They (especially the wife) had seemed to be among those totally uninterested in the type of stuff I talked about when they were still up here (and this way before I got into type). Since this was the first time I had spoken to them after getting into type and temperament, I nervously decided to mention it, and they were surprisingly interested. My wife and I (looking back on many people from the past and guessing their temperament) remembered her as yet another solid Melancholy, which would suggest ISTJ. The husband seemed very Phlegmatic.
They both had taken 16types tests, and she vaguely remembered I, F and J, and probably S. I ran the idea of a T preference by her, and she seemed to lean more towards F. At the same time, I am surprised by how accommodating she was being. She even wanted to tour the new light rail system that opened, which is what I went down there for in the first place; and offering to take me pretty much wherever I wanted to go. (I usually do that stuff alone, and swing by somewhere to see my old ESFP friend at her store, and she's not interested in this stuff either, and was away this time).
I always knew her as someone who seemed not to want to be bothered. So she did seem like an FJ. The ISTJ's we were comparing her with (including my mother, and my wife's best friend), would never had been that open and accommodating. They pretty much want to be left alone most of the time.
However, the way she barked orders at the boys did seem like the typical "directive" Melancholy parent. So all of this points to I
NFJ, who is Melancholy on the surface social area (Chart the Course). Her personality did overall greatly resemble Iwakar, who we met at our meetups, as well as a second-cousin in law whom I've speculated is INFJ, and was always different from the rest of this extremely T-heavy family.
This highlights what I was talking about in that "Enigmatic Types" thread. With certain temperament (i.e. temperament/Interaction Style) mixes, they look one way on the surface, but could be totally different on a deeper level.
It may also be a thing of having tertiary Ti, and being put off by all my Ti when she was younger, but better able to process it now. Also, perhaps, just fitting in with the heavy S clique in church we were in. (There were some people who seemed to be N's I could talk a lot with).
The husband remembered his type, which, surprisingly, was ENTJ, which would be the pure Choleric. Again, he always seemed so Phlegmatic. I had thought that he was probably the F of the couple. And P as well. He doesn't seem really expressive, but rather more moderate, though he insisted he was a solid E; but then I haven't been around him all that much. But talking to him, I guess I could see it (Especially briefly questioning my "linking all the theories together", which I see NTJ's often do). I'll bet he's probably Phlegmatic-Choleric, at least in Inclusion.
So I've found some previously unlikely people I could discuss this stuff with.