Mane, I believe you don't understand where Z Buck is coming from, here.
INFJs are particularly aware that one of the best ways to get out of an otherwise morally indefensible position is to start accusing the other person of being even more morally reprehensible. So long as it feels like the other person is trying to get you to assume more responsibility than is merited, it is wise to be skeptical of their motives.
it's just funny:
in trying to pose an ad hominem as obvious while talking publicly about me while avoiding addressing me, a cheap tactics i've witnessed in the past which is itself funny because she is presumably a grown adult and is thus doing something which today is actually considered a common form of emotional bullying between girls in an increasingly more highschools (since its part of the spectrum of emotional bullying which is recognized as the cause of eating disorders among many poor girls who had to face such behaviors), but in her own self-described spirit of reflection i may indulge in humorously now, she has instead not only showed that the notion that is obvious for her is based on an assumption (from someone who isn’t showing remorse themselves) which she took no effort to fact check and which anyone who did actually follow the "remorse part" would know to be gravely wrong - either based on my post when an example of remorse was requested or based on the many posts in which other people have talked about it.... but has also in the process has implied that many of the INFJs here who have revealed their stories of remorse were - "not genuine ones".
note that i don't consider her a Representative of INFJdom or think she knew what she was doing, she just utilized a common manipulation tactic towards the thread's participants in which a notion is presented as obvious and thus whoever doesn't see it must be flawed and unable to see the obvious, and for further irony, doing so while describing her angst at her own sense of being manipulated.
see, in the world of unhealthy Fe without the support of Ti, things are what they look like, so if the perception of someone is made to look bad, they are, no depth or inspection beyond. its a world where ad hominems aren't fallacies, but rather the cornerstones of one's judgement. the combined result is that the easiest way to treat any notion, conclusion or fact you dislike, is either to try and shut out the source (the doorslam), or simply to try and make it look bad. ofcourse such a person could just say i am doing so right now, because under such a world view, factual information about the action and behavior would all go away if it wasn't for whoever said it.
so when the attempt backfires, it becomes... honestly? sort of funny.
the largest irony is that at the point of her doing it, it wasn't needed.
multiply INFJs here and elsewhere have already shown beyond any reasonable doubt that they have shown and experienced genuine remorse.
in doing so they have displayed the capacity to do all which remorse inherently requires - to take responsibility, to see themselves within the sequence of events, to take ownership of their part in their interactions with others, thus not having to position themselves mentally in a victim/tyrant model, nor generating a paranoid impression by thinking anyone is against them due to not seen the causality of when they have pushed someone against them. it also demands the ability to understand themselves within the experience of others, and thus see when one's advice or confidence in one's own advice might become tyrannical. in affect, by doing so,
all of the items on OA's list and that others throughout the first few pages have brought up have being effectively disproved, at least as applied to all INFJs. if there is some MBTI related truth in it left, there are certainly a lot high functioning exceptions.
when i have a notion and find out i am wrong, i say it, as i did. you can say it wasn't their responsibility to show me otherwise and that it was cruel of me to inquire, but a good few have done so out of their own choice, and for that i am grateful for those who have.