Scott N Denver
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- 4w5
I've seen very little about this relationship pairing: any thoughts, experiences etc?
The very little that I have seen is from tribe.net, when ENFP-INFP couples mentioned 1) how similar they are those outsiders often may not see it, 2) how not-serious or not-responsible they are, 3) how much fun they have together.
Tiger and Barron-Tieger in Just Your Type describe it as easy and familiar with very strong emotional connection, and the major differences and difficulties being related to 1) being TOO similar and 2) different energy levels/social needs.
I kid you not, their section on "The joys" is relatively short, and they start off "The frustrations" section by talking about ease, familiarity, and similarity. Do they do this with the ENFJ-INFJ or any of the other E___+I same___ pairs that I've seen? No!!!!! Maybe they just got tired cuz it was almost the end of the book???? I've honestly thought about writing to them and asking about that.
I often feel like ENFP's are my like looking at myself in the mirror if I was just more social and talkative. The dom Ne vs Dom Fi does make a real difference, but get two balanced people together, and well they are balanced people. In a sense, an ENFJ is what I would aspire to be if I were an extravert [their social skills and natural good graces and all], and yet an ENFP is what I would be if I were an extravert. All our INFP well-wishing puppies-in-utopia thinking only amounts to so much due to our often not projecting well-wishing puppies-in-utopia out to others in a way where they can sense it and do something with it. But the ENFP's, they put stuff out there, and sure it may not be as intense as our super-deep well-wishing puppies-in-utopia-ness, but its still a lot [far more than most peoples for sure!] and, you know, ACTUALLY GETS SEEN AND NOTICED BY OTHERS.
Anyways, thoughts, ideas, experiences???
The very little that I have seen is from tribe.net, when ENFP-INFP couples mentioned 1) how similar they are those outsiders often may not see it, 2) how not-serious or not-responsible they are, 3) how much fun they have together.
Tiger and Barron-Tieger in Just Your Type describe it as easy and familiar with very strong emotional connection, and the major differences and difficulties being related to 1) being TOO similar and 2) different energy levels/social needs.
I kid you not, their section on "The joys" is relatively short, and they start off "The frustrations" section by talking about ease, familiarity, and similarity. Do they do this with the ENFJ-INFJ or any of the other E___+I same___ pairs that I've seen? No!!!!! Maybe they just got tired cuz it was almost the end of the book???? I've honestly thought about writing to them and asking about that.
I often feel like ENFP's are my like looking at myself in the mirror if I was just more social and talkative. The dom Ne vs Dom Fi does make a real difference, but get two balanced people together, and well they are balanced people. In a sense, an ENFJ is what I would aspire to be if I were an extravert [their social skills and natural good graces and all], and yet an ENFP is what I would be if I were an extravert. All our INFP well-wishing puppies-in-utopia thinking only amounts to so much due to our often not projecting well-wishing puppies-in-utopia out to others in a way where they can sense it and do something with it. But the ENFP's, they put stuff out there, and sure it may not be as intense as our super-deep well-wishing puppies-in-utopia-ness, but its still a lot [far more than most peoples for sure!] and, you know, ACTUALLY GETS SEEN AND NOTICED BY OTHERS.
Anyways, thoughts, ideas, experiences???