BerberElla
12 and a half weeks
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- Sep 25, 2008
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For instance, if someone who's cocky thinks they're ultra good looking, buff, drives a monster-truck talks like they're the shit sent from above. If I'm mad/get into a fight with them, I could not just flat out say, "I'm sorry. Small packages come in big cars, don't they??" I just for the life of me, cannot blurt out anything cruel like that. Boundaries are important- some lines we just really shouldn't cross, no matter how angry we are, especially when it comes to a person's physical or mental attributes. It could really hurt.
I know exactly what you mean there, I'm the same, for example I'm admin at another forum and a member I had been "friends" with for a few years and who knew alot about me, things that could really hurt, went all apeshit because he couldn't do what he wanted and get away with it based on being friends with us in charge, he didn't react well to being told to behave (in the nicest possible way lol) and really ripped into me.
Things that I had only told him became public knowledge and onto public mockery, he was so nasty and full of venom. And even though I knew just as many things about him that I could have used to insult him equally I just couldn't bring myself to cross that line. I couldn't say anything to him that would linger in the hurt it can cause (sad thing is it probably would have bounced off his thick skin if I had said it all, whereas of course everything he said to me really did hurt my feelings).
IRL I would have lashed out, to me physical pain doesn't hurt as much as emotional pain, so I find it easier to smack someone who is hurting my feelings than trying to hurt their feelings too. It's silly I know because violence also hurts, but I grew up in a violent household so physical pain doesn't hold the same ability to hurt me.
I would rather fight you than rip into your soul with words no amount of saying sorry can change.