jaku
New member
- Joined
- Dec 18, 2008
- Messages
- 65
- MBTI Type
- INFJ
- Enneagram
- 4,5?
missing pieces of ice cream cake.
...also you need to demonstrate understanding. practice honesty and a great deal of transparency. communication of feelings is very important. and clarifying without just making excuses. Because, if i'm right, she won't tell you flat out that it's dumb or she doesn't agree with it, but she'll definitely take it into account the next time you open your mouth.
it's tough to be trustable.
and the closer you get (you said 7-8 months together i believe) the more she will appreciate your expression of concern and also the more you will be scrutinized and pitted against her values. (and expected to fit into them)
don't change yourself, but make it a point to really, really pay attention to all things. subtle and otherwise. keep communicating. without attacking.
no attacking.
INFJs see this as completely pointless.
I do at least
i hope that meant something^ (is comprehensible)
...also you need to demonstrate understanding. practice honesty and a great deal of transparency. communication of feelings is very important. and clarifying without just making excuses. Because, if i'm right, she won't tell you flat out that it's dumb or she doesn't agree with it, but she'll definitely take it into account the next time you open your mouth.
it's tough to be trustable.
and the closer you get (you said 7-8 months together i believe) the more she will appreciate your expression of concern and also the more you will be scrutinized and pitted against her values. (and expected to fit into them)
don't change yourself, but make it a point to really, really pay attention to all things. subtle and otherwise. keep communicating. without attacking.
no attacking.
INFJs see this as completely pointless.
I do at least
i hope that meant something^ (is comprehensible)
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