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INFJs are odd people.
Takes a real INFJ to know that, yes
INFJs are odd people.
Yeah. I've seen two INFJs hang out together.
I don't know enough about the INFP experiences with attracting odd people. I think for us it is something that must seem open in our faces or body language. I know we do put up with people for longer, and since we like to classify/sort/observe/figure out people, we probably allow them to talk to us initially out of our own curiosity. This is taken as a deep understanding of and receptivity to people who often are rejected by others.
Perhaps INFPs would be less likely to rebuff people out of dislike of conflict, where INFJs may put themselves in the other person's position so much that they could feel vividly (or think they could) how it could potentially make the other person feel badly and be reluctant to hurt them. INFPs are very willing to live and let live and take things as they come, so their easygoing tolerance would be appreciated. However, I don't know if they would feel any personal obligation to listen in the same way, which is why maybe weird people are less likely to remain clinging to you.
Do you have people wanting to pour out their life stories to you, or what do the odd people do when they get in contact with you?
How and when do you usually disengage yourself?
What sort of odd people are attracted to INFPs?
In my experience, the people that have come up to me with their stories don't want verbal support to their assertions...they just wanted someone to listen. So I listened. When someone is reaching out why do we assume they are "screwed up" or "fucked up?" Can't they just be lonely? Why all of the condemnation?
Ya you got a talent there that's prolly why they call you the psych type.
You should tho try to develop that instead to brag about it.
In my experience, the people that have come up to me with their stories don't want verbal support to their assertions...they just wanted someone to listen. So I listened. When someone is reaching out why do we assume they are "screwed up" or "fucked up?" Can't they just be lonely? Why all of the condemnation?
In my experience, the people that have come up to me with their stories don't want verbal support to their assertions...they just wanted someone to listen. So I listened. When someone is reaching out why do we assume they are "screwed up" or "fucked up?" Can't they just be lonely? Why all of the condemnation?
So now that we've agreed that there are a number of us who odd people pick: do you think you encourage it in some way? And if you don't, what is it about you that makes you approachable? Why do you think people pick you? Have any of you gone from being frequently approached to not approached? What is responsible for that?
I have noticed that many INFJs seem to draw odd people to them. This doesn't seem to just be an sexual attraction thing, because they can be male or female. However, if the odd person on the bus is going to talk to someone, you can bet it'll be the INFJ who is minding their own business and not even making eye contact.
This has happened to me while reading a magazine in Costco (by the end of the conversation the very unconventionally dressed older lady who approached me to compliment my purse had drawn me a map of her house and invited me, told me her thoughts on love, and discussed her three husbands without pause. This used to happen all the time during university and also while busking, which are more understandable venues. In later years it has happened less.
I know that INFJs tend to be less immediate judgemental, are painfully aware of being rude to others (even when justified), and have something about them that seems sympathetic.
is it too far fetched to suggest that, perhaps, those with certain 'disorders' or 'social issues' are actually people just like us who weren't able to come out on top after a seriously intense test of self-preservation our societies have let fall upon them?
i think sometimes i feel like if i keep on with it i might actually work backwards far enough into this mind to come to a conclusion will leave me with the tools to actually fix this indiviual's problem and reassimilate them into society?
For example, during my five years on living on an Indian reserve, I had the opportunity to try to make a difference. In some cases I was able to. In others, there were so many problems, and I had so little influence that I couldn't impact the person's life. I needed to satisfy myself that I had tried all the ways I knew how to prepare my students, impact them for good, and try to change the community and school system for the better while appreciating the good that I could find. At the end of five years, I concluded that I had gleaned many useful ideas, had a chance to observe much, and I became a better teacher. However, I was not impacting enough people for the amount of effort being expended and decided that I would move and try to affect the educational system in a broader sense where I had more opportunity to influence.