MrME
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*Note: Can a mod fix my title? I made a boom-boom.
My roommate is ESFP. He's a very kind, warm, and helpful person. He sees in me somebody that he needs to "help," even though I don't really need his help. He's a good friend and somebody that I really like having around, but I can't seem to convince him that I don't need help, I don't need to be fixed.
I've recently sensed a lot of frustration from him directed at me. (Mind you, I've only SENSED this, so I could be wrong.) I know my intense introversion and general INFJ-ness confuses the hell out of him. He seems to think everybody in the world is E, and he attempted a few times when we first moved in together to "get me out of the house more," only to be met with my lack of interest in going out. I've been very direct in explaining that I don't like to go out NEARLY as frequently as he does.
He has also expressed a belief that I am depressed, when I very much am not -- again, probably owing to the fact that I like spending my weekends at home, working on projects, playing video games, cleaning, playing with the cats, stuff like that. When I go out, it's usually only to the house of another pair of close friends who are also extremely introverted.
I've attempted to show him that I'm not depressed, and have even said so, directly. I've told him directly that I'm fine, that I don't want to go out, and that I'm not depressed. It works for a while, but within a few weeks he's trying to get me out of the house again.
Any suggestions?
My roommate is ESFP. He's a very kind, warm, and helpful person. He sees in me somebody that he needs to "help," even though I don't really need his help. He's a good friend and somebody that I really like having around, but I can't seem to convince him that I don't need help, I don't need to be fixed.
I've recently sensed a lot of frustration from him directed at me. (Mind you, I've only SENSED this, so I could be wrong.) I know my intense introversion and general INFJ-ness confuses the hell out of him. He seems to think everybody in the world is E, and he attempted a few times when we first moved in together to "get me out of the house more," only to be met with my lack of interest in going out. I've been very direct in explaining that I don't like to go out NEARLY as frequently as he does.
He has also expressed a belief that I am depressed, when I very much am not -- again, probably owing to the fact that I like spending my weekends at home, working on projects, playing video games, cleaning, playing with the cats, stuff like that. When I go out, it's usually only to the house of another pair of close friends who are also extremely introverted.
I've attempted to show him that I'm not depressed, and have even said so, directly. I've told him directly that I'm fine, that I don't want to go out, and that I'm not depressed. It works for a while, but within a few weeks he's trying to get me out of the house again.
Any suggestions?