Yet the apparent "warmth" of Fe is all on the surface. That's why I used the word "cold" to describe it. I feel mine is absolutely unconscious; it just reacts. An external event triggers a Fe response... you display and "feel" the emotion, yet you can completely detach yourself from it. Well at least I can. To a stage where I'm displaying a response... like crying my eyes out... but inside I'm not feeling anything and just thinking.
it can be analytical and momentarily detached, but even more so, it can feel like we're constantly getting caught in BETWEEN things (and we notice this). i haven't quite worked this out yet, but i feel like Fe gives an increasingly pronounced focus on Otherness. placing ourselves in the perspectives of others and allowing the imagined feelings to become our own temporarily. considering. circumspecting. very chameleonesque. we move around the scene very quickly and pick up information. everything mood-based lingers around us. the scene has a specific character, like music. we are triggered by others bc we are constantly imagining what they feel. trying to locate what kind of feelings they have within our own larger imaginative introverted intuition big picture framework, what we know about them, and what they seem to be telling us. our overall Fe feeling is a combination of the sum total of the scene itself (feelings, mood), the big picture happening right now (meaning), and our place within it. we observe it, but when it's broken, we want to take charge and direct it.
i do not think it's cold. sometimes the signal just goes dead. we just get noise, static, nonsense. other times we are profoundly affected by the feelings of others. by the intensity of their feelings, but also by the intensity of the circumstances that create such powerful and complex feelings. we crave context to allow us full and total access so we can grasp them across as many different planes as possible. create more potential connections and complex interrelated meaning.
Fe just gets charged by whatever emotional current is flowing around it. magnetized. polarity. tuned to the frequency. etc. the expression of feeling triggers powerful responses that our Ni connects to our own experiences, whereas Fi senses a connection between experiences after which the feeling is then reproduced (inside the interior).
I've often wondered if "depth" is actually just what the process of endlessly attempting to identify and align inarticulate and contradictory values looks like. Or maybe it's the aftermath of that process? It's not often that clear (or convinced, at least) thinkers are accused of depth. Maybe INFJs are not often called "deep" because they are less confused and more organized with their values? Maybe they don't have the required doubt to seem deep?
"depth" means that there is much that lies beneath the surface. infp is not alone in this category. their feelings are their most complex instrument to categorize, prioritize, and synthesize information. ours is our introverted intuition. we do not lack doubt in any way shape or form more or less than infp. we are self-critical in different ways. we use different tools to hone our value-system, to perfect our ideas and attitudes, hopes and dreams. we rely on different feedback measures to comb out glaring inconsistencies and incongruities and integrate ourselves and our ideals with more coherence. infjs often admire the way that Fi deals with emotional currency in such a fluent and beautiful way. and while the language of the heart speaks to us very intensely, we are loyal servants more so to the Big Picture we see revealed to us (+ our place within it) and ITS perfection than to maintaining our own congruent set of subjective values. we are capable of being dramatic shapeshifters.
The thing is that I'm not only focused on my own inner feelings. I'm also focused on other people's inner feelings. If I'm relaxed in my inner experience, then I look past the external behavior of others and sense out their motivations. This sense also can help me notice the subtle ways people are relating to eachother. That kind of info is very practical for living one's life.
more shades of feeling, more coal in the fire, you are both sensitive and well-stocked for reproducing the feelings of others internally.everything is comes with a very finely shaded feeling tone attached. you guess too, but you're generally very attuned and whatever you guess, you actually make in-house and feel very strongly. your empathy doesn't even have to be 100% correct to the feeling, bc regardless the intensity is there and it is an undoubtedly real emotional pang within you. so it works. it feels unburdening for others.
I think most Fi types can be quite easy to understand once you get the sense of that one central thing that they order their lives by, but of course this one thing can be a complex feeling that isn't easily put into words. So, maybe only another Fi type could figure it out. On the other hand, I'm sure most INFPs would love to try to explain it if you're willing to listen. INFPs have been known to talk endlessly about their internal experiences and analyzing them to death.
their values are decidedly unhierarchical. they aren't organized by Te. they're messy, complex, and convoluted. it's like a city where you can't demolish any buildings, you just have to build around. nothing gets erased. and i don't know any infps who actually want to talk about them in depth, bc they usually feel like they're coming out all wrong and that you are not grasping what they are saying (which, you're not, there's only a million and one indescribable connections and tensions and frustrations between each little proposed sentence). just wait for their art to come out or give up (half-joking, maybe two-thirds).
It's just that sometimes they seem to react by applying values in a situation that I don't think calls for them to be applied. And then I'm at a total loss as to how to respond. So basically, it would be a lot easier to interact with them if I understood where their values came from. I just don't like that they seem to expect me to respect their values when I don't even see how their values are involved in this situation, or even what their values are based on.
INFP's just get angry if I don't get it or explain why I disagree. They even seem to expect me to see all of the value and immediately embrace it, after one instance of it being applied, and I often don't. Sometimes even if I agree with them, they get angry later on because I didn't see how a different situation fit into the same value, confused and not even seeing them as connected.
having what is most important to you come out wrong is pretty much the worst feeling in the world. whenever this happens to me, i get a little batty. it's happened so many times, i've smashed my head into the wall enough times that my mushy brain is much much better at communicating than it used to be. nevertheless, i still get a prickly panicky feeling up my arm just imagining this feeling. infps hate it too. Fi is a slow-burning function, and often they're still working on organizing themselves and providing a structure in which to sketch and revise their understanding and articulation and it is just too unfinished for public consumption.