Paris34
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- Sep 9, 2014
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- MBTI Type
- INTP
- Enneagram
- 5w6
Do other INTP's ever feel this way, or am I the only one? Other types can chime in too.
I feel like a child. I'm naive and maybe too trusting. At least around the topic of relationships.
If allowed, I will ramble on when giving advice, providing insight, or even when venting. I like to consider all angles and possibilities, often contradicting myself. I do this both in writing and speech. But I feel guilty for writing so much. It feels like the conversation is weighted my direction, even when I'm responding with questions or advice. Its either too much, barely anything, or nothing at all in conversation with me.
My INFJ best friend typically has much shorter responses, and it takes him a long time to open up. So naturally I feel like the conversations are unbalanced, and I feel like I'm hogging the spot light so to speak.
I think its more just that he's careful about what he says. He pays more attention to things like the strategy of revealing who you are and the dance or game involved in relationships.
But in comparison, I can feel like a simple minded baboon. If I want to be friends with someone, I'll just make an effort to talk to them. Mind games, emotional manipulation, ect. . . never cross my mind. I don't hide who I am if I like you, I like you, it almost feels childlike sometimes. I have social anxiety to a certain extent, but honestly I don't care who knows things about me. I care if they then talk badly about me behind my back because to me that shows the ultimate disrespect and greatest break of trust. But I trust that people won't do that if I open up to them. Even if disproven by one person, I don't use that as proof that someone else will do the same in the future.
I'm trusting and tend to believe that other's are trustworthy. But I'm always worried that I'm sharing too much . . .
Any other INTP's ever feel this way?
I feel like a child. I'm naive and maybe too trusting. At least around the topic of relationships.
If allowed, I will ramble on when giving advice, providing insight, or even when venting. I like to consider all angles and possibilities, often contradicting myself. I do this both in writing and speech. But I feel guilty for writing so much. It feels like the conversation is weighted my direction, even when I'm responding with questions or advice. Its either too much, barely anything, or nothing at all in conversation with me.
My INFJ best friend typically has much shorter responses, and it takes him a long time to open up. So naturally I feel like the conversations are unbalanced, and I feel like I'm hogging the spot light so to speak.
I think its more just that he's careful about what he says. He pays more attention to things like the strategy of revealing who you are and the dance or game involved in relationships.
But in comparison, I can feel like a simple minded baboon. If I want to be friends with someone, I'll just make an effort to talk to them. Mind games, emotional manipulation, ect. . . never cross my mind. I don't hide who I am if I like you, I like you, it almost feels childlike sometimes. I have social anxiety to a certain extent, but honestly I don't care who knows things about me. I care if they then talk badly about me behind my back because to me that shows the ultimate disrespect and greatest break of trust. But I trust that people won't do that if I open up to them. Even if disproven by one person, I don't use that as proof that someone else will do the same in the future.
I'm trusting and tend to believe that other's are trustworthy. But I'm always worried that I'm sharing too much . . .
Any other INTP's ever feel this way?