Evo
Unapologetic being
- Joined
- Jul 1, 2011
- Messages
- 3,160
- MBTI Type
- XNTJ
- Enneagram
- 1w9
- Instinctual Variant
- sp/sx
There are several problems that I have been letting build up between my INFP and me.
First - She has character. She is a sweetheart like most INFP's. She's also fun, and hilarious.
Second - All of the above happens when she is OUT of work (We're friends and we work together)
So I love her out of work (cause at work she stresses me out from Ne interruptions)....At least I thought. Bear with me.
At work she fuels the drama. She doesn't like it...but she complains about it.(Which gives others more to run off with) <---I know this place is so caddy
So when stuff like this happens she stresses out about one tiny little thing that she takes soooo personally. I try to just let her be and do my own thing so that her "panic mode" does not spread.
So outside of work is where I let her vent and we have fun doing other things.
But then more and more I am starting to notice that I need my space and time. I don't have money right now and I'm kinda in a transitional period in my life. All I want to do is try to keep my ducks in a row... But she keeps wanting to hangout more and more...Which is fine because we are friends I get it. But one of the biggest problems is our car situation. Hers sucks and mine sucks...I don't even have one...I'm borrowing other peoples'. And we live 30 mins away from each other.
So she will say "When are we doing this?" and then the next day the same thing. EVERYday she has said it. And I say "I can't" ...or "I don't have money to do that." Or I have even said "Are you going to pay for it?" or "No, I'm not going to be able to do anything the next couple months"...<---I have said all these things many times...
I feel like she refuses to take no for an answer. I am starting to get annoyed. I don't want to hurt her feelings. She is extremely sensitive. I'm getting stressed out from her resistance. What can I say that will make her understand?
First - She has character. She is a sweetheart like most INFP's. She's also fun, and hilarious.
Second - All of the above happens when she is OUT of work (We're friends and we work together)
So I love her out of work (cause at work she stresses me out from Ne interruptions)....At least I thought. Bear with me.
At work she fuels the drama. She doesn't like it...but she complains about it.(Which gives others more to run off with) <---I know this place is so caddy
So when stuff like this happens she stresses out about one tiny little thing that she takes soooo personally. I try to just let her be and do my own thing so that her "panic mode" does not spread.
So outside of work is where I let her vent and we have fun doing other things.
But then more and more I am starting to notice that I need my space and time. I don't have money right now and I'm kinda in a transitional period in my life. All I want to do is try to keep my ducks in a row... But she keeps wanting to hangout more and more...Which is fine because we are friends I get it. But one of the biggest problems is our car situation. Hers sucks and mine sucks...I don't even have one...I'm borrowing other peoples'. And we live 30 mins away from each other.
So she will say "When are we doing this?" and then the next day the same thing. EVERYday she has said it. And I say "I can't" ...or "I don't have money to do that." Or I have even said "Are you going to pay for it?" or "No, I'm not going to be able to do anything the next couple months"...<---I have said all these things many times...
I feel like she refuses to take no for an answer. I am starting to get annoyed. I don't want to hurt her feelings. She is extremely sensitive. I'm getting stressed out from her resistance. What can I say that will make her understand?