Udog
Seriously Delirious
- Joined
- Aug 2, 2008
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- MBTI Type
- INfp
- Enneagram
- 9w1
- Instinctual Variant
- sp/sx
Yeah, it's a combination of an intense interest in what makes a person tick and their ability to tailor fit their approach to an individual. They relate to a person by becoming what that person needs.
There's something subtle too, that took me a long time to notice. INFJs notice what you respond to, and slowly encompass a personality that consists of those elements. If someone desires and responds to someone that is slightly giggly, they become more giggly. If someone responds to challenging and edgy humor, their humor starts to develop an edge. The degree of difference can be subtle or extreme, depending on the INFJ.
This was so insightful to me, and clearly explains some things I've experienced. By the time most INFJs enter that final stage of romantic pursuit, the other person has invested alot into the INFJ to get there, and often welcomes it.
There's something subtle too, that took me a long time to notice. INFJs notice what you respond to, and slowly encompass a personality that consists of those elements. If someone desires and responds to someone that is slightly giggly, they become more giggly. If someone responds to challenging and edgy humor, their humor starts to develop an edge. The degree of difference can be subtle or extreme, depending on the INFJ.
With INFJs, the interest (maybe) precedes the valuing (maybe) precedes the romantic pursuit. Outwardly, they may all appear as the same step to the receiving party, but in our minds we are definitely at varying levels of interest. Disclaimers aside, I'd like to think that once I reach stage three (romantic pursuit mode) my "aggressive availability" becomes blatantly apparent.
This was so insightful to me, and clearly explains some things I've experienced. By the time most INFJs enter that final stage of romantic pursuit, the other person has invested alot into the INFJ to get there, and often welcomes it.