Once or twice a week is WAY too big a commitment for me! I see my BFF (who lives about 10 miles away) maybe once or twice a month, and usually one of those times is our monthly Ladies Night with a group of friends. We occasionally email, text or Facebook as well.
I think sometimes SHE feels like I'm out of touch (she's an E, I'm an I), but she mainly understands that I just need my alone time.
I <3 her!!
lol!
at college, my BFF and i saw each other pretty much at least daily. we'd generally spend a few hours together a day, often more. sometimes of course we'd be apart for long weekends, or breaks, but then we'd have a huge time binge of being together. though during the summer we did separate summer-long things. we'd still see each other at least a few times.
we live about 100 miles away now and probably see each other with about the same regularity as you and your BFF, but we usually contact one another daily through texting, messaging, email, etc. this amount of contact, as we have discussed, is not nearly enough for our preferences.
then again, we're both Es, lol.
I'd like someone who does take an offense in irregularity to speak.
i take offense in irregularity if someone who was previously consistently very close suddenly drops off the face of the planet, or is very hard to get a hold of, with no particular reason besides change of location.
i have two friends like this now: one has not talked to me at all since she changed schools. i don't really understand why. we were very close friends for 2 years. the other was one of my closest friends in high school. she kind of "shifted" social groups during college (to a different group of people from the same high school) and doesn't really talk to the old group anymore. while i understand that they are in closer proximity to her, that is no reason to completely blow off all of the people you used to be tight with. lessen socializing, yes; ignore, no.
i completely understand changing social circles, but it's one thing to not talk as much or see each other as often - just even a reply to a facebook post i've left would be nice. it's a very different thing to make absolutely zero effort to connect when the other person has reached out to you.
IOW, aren't we supposed to act just OK, and pretend like a purposeful neglectance isn't happening?
i think it's best to give the benefit of the doubt, but there's a point at which i decide that this person has to be moved lower on my priority list.