magpie
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What are your current standards for others?
I don't know, that's a good question. I guess my standard for others would be not hurting people and/or not causing harm. But we all hurt people and we all cause harm. And also, I want people to recognize their shitty opinions for what they are. But you can't force someone into that or you become worse than they are.
What helps for me (this has really become a tangent that hardly relates to self worth) is imagining people who've done... questionable things going home and putting on their pajamas and kissing their children and making themselves dinner and cuddling their pets. Nothing is mutually exclusive. Everyone is human. I don't know if this makes any sense but realizing this really helped me not loathe myself. And not loathing yourself is good for self worth.