speaking for myself:
Are NT's highly aware of their emotions...
i'm highly aware of them. i'm not a robot, so i feel the same as anyone would. if anything, it seems as though i'm even more highly aware than others around me because i pay attention to it so much whereas others seem to be just fine with going with the flow and expressing them and/or embracing them. as though they just take it for granted that they're feeling them. i don't take it for granted at all.
i am
very aware of how others are affected by their emotions. it's what i do next with that information that's apparently different than the majority of people i know. for just one example of the many things going on in my mind when on the receiving end of another's emotion: i don't immediately "feel for" them and take what i'm hearing/seeing on face value. i not only think about how they're feeling, but the "why" behind their choosing to express it (or not express it) the way they are.
not because i care, but because caring when not having a good idea of what's going on below the surface doesn't make sense. not to say i never care
or that i always do, but that whether i do or not, it still gets filtered objectively.
...and simply choose to not act on them
sometimes i act on them, and sometimes i don't, but a very high percent of the time, i put myself through that same filter and look at the 'whys' before acting on them. "will it solve anything if i..? or will it make things worse...?"
when it comes to my emotions, it just depends. if it's a safe environment, and it's not a situation in which a lot of weight is placed on it, i show emotion quite readily. for instance, crying during a movie or just because i'm so happy and feel safe with the person i'm with.
with someone else's emotions, one major reason i'll filter it is because i'm not sure at first if it's genuine. usually, i can filter it in a matter of seconds, and if i find them genuine, i have no problem doing what i can to help. actually, in those situations, i love helping in any way i can.
heh. or
not as the case may be.
...or does their 'personality' cause them to lack this sort of awareness and that's how they can make objective decisions so easily?
it's not a
lack of awareness that causes the objectivity, it's the
additional awareness that causes it. the tendency to be aware, yet still step back from it.
...of being aware of not only the feelings but of everything else going on at the same time.
Overall, I consider myself an objective decision maker rather than one who is subjective.
HAHA. so does everyone else who ever lived.
However, I always know how I feel about a situation, sometimes my feelings affect my decisions but if I feel that a decision is best made without my feelings, I will ignore them.
try giving more thought to how you deal with other people's emotions instead of just your own, and that may help you figure this out easier.