This is something I've been wondering about lately. Do XXFJs aim to get along with as many people as possible?
Disharmony is hard to deal with, but I don't *aim* to get along with everyone. I just like people. I want to understand them. That's my prime mover. As a mechanic, I was in a pretty odd place. Even though I got into plenty of scraps, I was told by one of the redneck boys that I was very well liked and that they saw me as their sister. (Well. Except for the ENTP I was involved with...) My love for people got pushed and burned and tested constantly. Most times it ended with understanding. Sometimes rude hand gestures, cursing, and yelling.
Or do they often write people off and for what reason?
There was one boy in my garage. He was too much. Very young, tough, cocky, narrow. I could see a lot of good in him, but he pushed me SO HARD. He was difficult. I got into more than my fair share of cuss-outs with him. But ultimately, we reached an equilibrium. I'd cursed him out so bad the day before that his eyebrows caught on fire. When I came in the next day, I grabbed him from behind and squeezed him and said, "You make me crazy, S. Don't make me kill you." He turned his head, smiled, nodded, said quietly, "Okay..." We got along fine after that.
I will strive to find what makes each person tick. It's an automatic impulse. Yes, there are people that I absolutely wash my hands of and will not give the time of day to. If you insist on being a jackass, I give up.