Yama
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[MENTION=23583]yama[/MENTION]
I mean sure, human cognition is very complicated...but I suppose MBTI type theory somehow fits strongly with what I observe about people (my inferior Ti has officially taken over here lol). It doesn't explain everything, but for now it makes sense. The (unhealthy) ESFJ description fit me so well to an unusual extent...
I am curious what is your constant choice in engaging in Fe behavior? What makes you so concerned about how you appear to others and in maintaining social harmony? What happened to you during the years you struggled to make friends? Did it impact your use of Fe in any way?
I don't consciously choose to use the functions I do. They just happen to be the ones that align most with how I naturally am. As for making friends, I've just never been very good at it. I can be a very friendly and charismatic person and I can get along with anyone, but I don't let too many people get close because I find it hard to connect with most people since I have uncommon interests and because I don't like doing things like hanging out with people I don't already know well. So during those years I spent more time on places like typoc and doing generally whatever I felt like doing. I don't even know how consciously concerned I am with things like 'social harmony.' I definitely prefer being in environments that aren't chaotic and riddled with conflict because it makes me feel more at ease. There's no real reason for any of it, it's just how I am. I like to be comfortable, both externally and internally. I don't like conflict, and I like being likable, and it's something that just comes naturally to me.
Since you mentioned unhealthiness, I want to say this: I went through something similar, and I jsut want to warn you now. I see a LOT of people come to this website relying too heavily on type descriptions, using them as an identity crutch, but that's not what typology is for. Typology is supposed to be used as a tool for self improvement, not as something we rely on to tell us who we are. Because pretty much no one ever is 100% a type description. MBTI types are archetypes, people are not.