Such Irony
Honor Thy Inferior
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- Jul 23, 2010
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- 5w6
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- sp/so
I have difficulties where I'm in a group of others where they will be talking about stuff that I have no knowledge of and no interest in. I try to hide my disinterest to the best of my ability and I must do a pretty good job of it because rarely do they say "you must be bored" and they just keep talking about the same thing. But I feel really awkward in these types of conversations. It's hard when the topic of conversation gives you nothing you can contribute and its hard to ask questions without looking completely ignorant. I often feel this way because when I'm in a group of people, so many of the conversations focus on pop culture things like movies and TV, which I rarely pay attention to. I couldn't even tell you most of the movies that are playing in the theatre right now.
At work most of the people are older than me and are in a different stage of life. They will talk about their families and such and issues they have in raising their children. I have no kids and am unmarried and feel like I'm on a completely different plane from them.
The things that interest me just wouldn't interest most people so I don't bring them up.
When I'm in conversation though, I don't want to hurt the others' feelings by looking like I'm bored with what they have to say. But I don't want to spend the whole time listening to something that I don't relate to and can't contribute to.
Anyone relate and how do you get better at handling these sorts of conversations? Do you know of any ways to maybe redirect the conversation to something of more interest without making it look too obvious that you were bored with the original topic?
At work most of the people are older than me and are in a different stage of life. They will talk about their families and such and issues they have in raising their children. I have no kids and am unmarried and feel like I'm on a completely different plane from them.
The things that interest me just wouldn't interest most people so I don't bring them up.
When I'm in conversation though, I don't want to hurt the others' feelings by looking like I'm bored with what they have to say. But I don't want to spend the whole time listening to something that I don't relate to and can't contribute to.
Anyone relate and how do you get better at handling these sorts of conversations? Do you know of any ways to maybe redirect the conversation to something of more interest without making it look too obvious that you were bored with the original topic?