thejames
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- Jun 27, 2008
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- MBTI Type
- INFP
This is going to be kind of lengthy, but please read through it if you can.
I could definitely use some helpful advice.
It is supposedly natural for the ENFJ - INFP relationship to flourish (according to personalitypage.com, these relationship types are even best for marriage).
Now,
Being an INFP, I sometimes have difficulty verbalizing my thoughts in a concise, organized manner. I'm much better with some ink in my hand and a sheet of paper underneath.
Simply put, we INFPs spend a considerable amount of time inwardly managing our intense, dreamy thoughts -- so in social situations, surfacing such monstrosities takes a great deal of effort if we are to do so concisely.
Concisely -- the way Js like information handed to them.
So with my ENFJ friends, I often get cut off and judged too quickly, before I even get a chance to explain my complete thoughts. The INFP cannot be accurately judged or figured out too quickly, yet the ENFJ does this and then follows up like they're suddenly best friends with you.
This aggravates me, and I almost suspect ENFJs of being fakes.
They seem to go around making quick judgments of everyone based upon strong extroverted feelings, and even confront the people they bitch about with the same "best friend" attitude. How do I know they aren't bitching behind my back when they aren't acting like my best friend? Do ENFJs just feel that they need to be liked by everyone they meet? If so, that seems really shallow.
I care about my ENFJ friends, but on the flipside, the "me" they care about probably doesn't even exist. The "me" they know is just a scapegoat they created to leach good feelings off. Frustrating to no end.
And now, I'm falling for an ENFJ girl, and I have no idea why. I'm so attracted yet so frustrated at the same time.
If anyone has any insight, please share.
Especially ENFJs and INFPs who have had relationships with ENFJs.
I could definitely use some helpful advice.
It is supposedly natural for the ENFJ - INFP relationship to flourish (according to personalitypage.com, these relationship types are even best for marriage).
Now,
Being an INFP, I sometimes have difficulty verbalizing my thoughts in a concise, organized manner. I'm much better with some ink in my hand and a sheet of paper underneath.
Simply put, we INFPs spend a considerable amount of time inwardly managing our intense, dreamy thoughts -- so in social situations, surfacing such monstrosities takes a great deal of effort if we are to do so concisely.
Concisely -- the way Js like information handed to them.
So with my ENFJ friends, I often get cut off and judged too quickly, before I even get a chance to explain my complete thoughts. The INFP cannot be accurately judged or figured out too quickly, yet the ENFJ does this and then follows up like they're suddenly best friends with you.
This aggravates me, and I almost suspect ENFJs of being fakes.
They seem to go around making quick judgments of everyone based upon strong extroverted feelings, and even confront the people they bitch about with the same "best friend" attitude. How do I know they aren't bitching behind my back when they aren't acting like my best friend? Do ENFJs just feel that they need to be liked by everyone they meet? If so, that seems really shallow.
I care about my ENFJ friends, but on the flipside, the "me" they care about probably doesn't even exist. The "me" they know is just a scapegoat they created to leach good feelings off. Frustrating to no end.
And now, I'm falling for an ENFJ girl, and I have no idea why. I'm so attracted yet so frustrated at the same time.
If anyone has any insight, please share.
Especially ENFJs and INFPs who have had relationships with ENFJs.