proteanmix
Plumage and Moult
- Joined
- Apr 23, 2007
- Messages
- 5,514
- Enneagram
- 1w2
"Externalities" may be influenced in any number of different ways using any number of different methods. We're talking about a book that prescribes a very specific method for manipulating people into liking you. While I have no problem with the book as far as its potential usefulness to salespeople, I am loath to recommend it as a way of winning friends. Too much about the methods seems to approach dishonesty, and the intent behind wishing to "win" (note the conquering metaphor) friends reads as neither authentic nor useful for forging long-term friendships. Just my opinion.
Can you please say what some of those differing methods are that aren't already explained in the book? How do you begin a friendship with someone?
I've read the book and Carnegie reiterates over and over that sincerity and authenticity is the key. People can sense when you're just going through the motions and being empty in dealing with them. People apply methods and principles to all different types of areas life. Why is applying principles towards people so distasteful?