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it's more than just depending on the said Fi user's values, it's a means of detecting internal congruence/incongruence. you seem to have an "if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all" approach to life, but, frankly, such an approach denies the negative aspects of life and human nature, and the negative aspect of human nature that is the topic of this thread is simple. "People are fake and it is easy to see through". people cannot grow if no one confronts them directly with their problems and forces them to see them for what they really are (for example, this is the whole idea behind the Enneagram. lots of people on typology forums think it is a tool to make them feel "special", but it is entirely the opposite and, if used correctly, is designed to reveal the deepest, darkest fixations and unconscious and irrational thought/behavior patterns of people).
Even if that was my approach to life, it doesn't "deny" anything. Denial is when someone refuses to accept something, not when someone refuses to jerk-off in public.
Yes! Congruence with your values!
If ones growth must depend entirely on others, they will never grow. Ever. Force doesn't necessitate growth, it necessitates trauma.