Why is it so hard to accept when people build whole careers on their ability to judge other people's characters. I'm talking about criminal profilers, Police to a certain degree, job interviewers. Sure they have pieces of paper saying they can, but the aptitude has to be there. It's not necessarily Fi but why the resistance to the concept? We are on a forum for personality profiling, does that not involve some measure of character judgment?
I think I've stated before how my abusive childhood kinda predisposed me to be hyper aware of body language and facial expressions, as a defense mechanism. It translates well to real life. Yes, I may judge quicker than most, but I also have friends and family (even workmates) who have come to accept that I'm not bad at reading people and situations.
I have less acuity over the interwebz, admittedly.
I have learnt over the years, not to distrust my first impressions. I'm really not gonna squash some one who shares similar sentiments, having learnt what I've learnt. Y'all have just had different experiences.
So you have become almost hypervigilant then, in watching others in an effort to intercept and protect against being hurt? Do you find your barometer also keeps out those who really would not hurt you as well? Do you have to always fine-tune it, or even find that it is grossly out of whack? Just very curious.
Profilers use behavior to try to get an idea of who they are after, in order to understand someone better. I think that is what most of us use mbti for as well, though Victor makes a good point how mbti can then be used to control others.
It can get all muddled when you start talking about assessing people and judging people. Of course we cannot control our gut instincts and impressions of others. I do it quickly and easily and inadvertently, as do we all. It's part of our animal instinct, to size up body language with our experience to protect ourselves. I think it becomes bad, and a problem, when we then take it a step or two further and judge the essence of the person, or even their underlying character. I think the key is to remember
we have every right to judge others' behaviors toward us and toward other people, but if we then judge that person, or their innate character as bad or faulty, we are not only incorrect, but it does a disservice to society at large, and humanity.
Why? Because sometimes people fuck up and do bad things. Judging who they are, or will always be, on past performance/behavior just feels bad, and I know I wouldn't want someone judging my future life/self or who I am, on my past mistakes/behaviors. God wants us to love each other, using the innate love and goodness we have in us, and using His love which surrounds us always, if we allow ourselves to feel it. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Judge not, lest ye be judged. <3 There is always a new day to be better.