Rasofy
royal member
- Joined
- Mar 7, 2011
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- MBTI Type
- INTP
- Enneagram
- 5w6
- Instinctual Variant
- sp/sx
On a very concrete level, Ive found that the words 'you' and 'i' make a really big difference. With a Fe user you can go: 'You need to put yourself together now, look at what damage your actions have caused! => shame ensues, Fe-user shapes up.
With a Fi-user you go: What about (insert person being hurt by actions)? Because of all this (Te, not Fe!), he is facing (insert consequences) => impresses upon Fi users that their actions are impacting the freedom and space of another individual (NOT GROUP), something most of us hold sacred.
That's a very interesting breakdown, and the Fe approach would definitely work best with me.
The Fi approach would likely make me think ''well, since I didn't do anything inappropriate, it's not my fault he reacted badly''. I'd likely apologize, but it wouldn't be a very genuine response in comparison, as I'd consider that person wasn't supposed to have reacted badly.
I mean, if I didn't violate the widely accepted social protocol, having to apologize without first acknowledging that I did something wrong would be like putting his standards not only above the conventional protocol, but also above my own standards. Objectively, that's kind of an unfair situation.
Mostly random thoughts. I still think Fi values are pretty weird.