I personally love eye contact, but with other guys, there's a certain primitive "wanna go bitch" part of the male brain that activates when two guys make eye contact.
yeah, especially when you meet another guy for the first time - the very first eye contact you make has
a lot of that element in it. i think that initial contact frees you up a lot, and after that you are able to be pretty open and relaxed.
your chair in the water picture is pretty classic, too.
i love doing the chair in the water, it brings me a lot of joy. haha!
I've always made eye contact with people when they're talking... unless I'm trying to signal them to "piss off." ha ha!
I've always been that way, too. For me, I was giving them a signal that I cared about what they were saying, plus I can watch them and absorb all the cues they are putting off... not just the words themselves.
i make a HUGE amount of eye contact, i do think it helps you focus on the communication. i am not a blinker either, i don't blink.
but to me it is instinctual, for me it is very hard not to look someone in the eye.
unless I'm trying to signal them to "piss off." ha ha!
i think that when i want somebody to piss off it is a lot easier and much more effective to make LOTS of eye contact, to tell them through your eyes.
also,
when my wife makes eye contact she is looking for something inside the other person, some kind of fundamental part of that person.
whereas when i make eye contact i am more relating to that person through myself, so i think eye contact for me is about looking for something inside
myself that will pull us together.