ChocolateMoose123
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I dated an ESTJ. (I'm an INTP). It was a good relationship. We rarely fought and he was a lot of fun. However, the relationship ended abruptly with him "getting scared" and "running". (He just stopped talking to me and then 2 weeks later broke up with me via text message). We are friends now and have been for a while. But it is apparent that this "running" is a pattern in his relationships. Both before me (as I learned) and after me (as I've seen - although I have encouraged him not end his last relationship the same way he did with me, as it was so hurtful).
He usually is always in a relationship but never for more than a year and then he bolts to the next one. When I ask him about why he does it; he says he doesn't know. He is in law enforcement and is very competent at his job. However, whenever I ask him about anything emotional he gets incredibly antsy and visibly nervous. It's almost comical how scared he gets. The juxtaposition between the way he normally carries himself and when asked anything about his emotions is amazing!
I'm wondering if this pattern is familiar to any of you ESTJ's? Or can shed any light?
He usually is always in a relationship but never for more than a year and then he bolts to the next one. When I ask him about why he does it; he says he doesn't know. He is in law enforcement and is very competent at his job. However, whenever I ask him about anything emotional he gets incredibly antsy and visibly nervous. It's almost comical how scared he gets. The juxtaposition between the way he normally carries himself and when asked anything about his emotions is amazing!
I'm wondering if this pattern is familiar to any of you ESTJ's? Or can shed any light?