Ene
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[MENTION=17697]small.wonder[/MENTION] Thanks so much for answering.
I want people to be honest with me, about hard things and about not so hard things, too. I just want to know the truth is so I can know how to proceed on anything.
Thanks. I imagine that is what the auxiliary Ti looks like. I'm glad you pointed that out.
I haven't had any arguments with my friend yet, well, just one, but we resolved it.
Awesome nuggets, thank you so much. I will remember this.
I think he is a E 7 but I'm not definite. I am obviously an E 9 and sometimes I veer toward an 8. Okay, a lot of times I veer to an 8. haha.
[MENTION=4109]entropie[/MENTION] Yes. I can hear him coming off with something exactly like that.
, I took it as a sign that no one who had read the thread had anything of substance to say but they wanted to say "something." LOL. Or perhaps that the right people just hadn't read it yet. So, I am glad you chimed in.I'm not sure why you've recieved such weak responses so far
I've actually had this said to me, so it sounds familiar.1) he has said many times that being completely open and honest is his main desire/goal with me, that he has been prone to keeping his inner world at arms length from women in the past.
My role in this, of course is to be equally open/honest (very natural for me, anyway) and to respond with understanding or grace when he is honest about hard things.
I want people to be honest with me, about hard things and about not so hard things, too. I just want to know the truth is so I can know how to proceed on anything.
2) One of our larger conflict causes is Debate Mentality. He tends to slip into a need to argue, when I'm just trying to have a conversation, and often about minute details that don't really matter to me. We have had to learn the art of agreeing to disagree (which is hilarious because we actually agree on about 98% of everything in life-- that 2% is what I mean about debating about things that don't matter).
Thanks. I imagine that is what the auxiliary Ti looks like. I'm glad you pointed that out.
3) We are both rehash junkies. This can be amazing when it comes to savoring memories together or telling stories, but is kind of bad in conflict because we tend to review past arguments too... We actually have agreed to not do that anymore.
I haven't had any arguments with my friend yet, well, just one, but we resolved it.
4) Ideas and stories are fuel for both of us, and we are both naturally full of them. In that way, being ourselves is very successful in keeping each other intrigued and invested. Artifice or manufactured attempts at "entertaining" an ENTP would never work in my opinion, anyway. Another small note on this: we both love surprising each other, but he really doesn't like if a surprise it given away too early-- he really wants to savor the experience.
Awesome nuggets, thank you so much. I will remember this.
5) As you noted, we are both pretty independent (which is good), but underneath, we are also both pretty hopeless romantics. It's a very interesting combo, but also very balanced in some ways. I think this could differ with the Enneagram types involved (core and instincts), let me know if you might want some insight on what his might be!
I think he is a E 7 but I'm not definite. I am obviously an E 9 and sometimes I veer toward an 8. Okay, a lot of times I veer to an 8. haha.
[MENTION=4109]entropie[/MENTION] Yes. I can hear him coming off with something exactly like that.