Anyone have any thought on this pairing?
This is what I'm thinking, to start with:
-power couple dynamic, both like to be the stars and both are good at making that happen. Similarly, able to keep up with each other, match wits, sometimes a competitive vibe. This make the relationship explosive, potential short lived, but pretty steamy...
-both like to advocate/teach/advise others, but in different ways. this makes them benevolent, compatible leaders of their brood or friend group.
-the NT in her admires his Jness... his ability to do math, balance a checkbook, and loves to let someone else be in charge for once. The Jness gives him an edge that allows her to maintain interest. He gets to "take care" of her in a way that she's not used to allowing. In general, I think J males and P females allow them to play out certain traditional gender roles that makes them compatible.
-He admires her independence, her confidence, her somewhat masculine nature. Her Tness keeps her just out of his grasp, he knows he'll always be somewhat emotionally vulnerable next to her, and that gives her a mystique needed to maintain his attraction. This flips around the gender roles a little bit.. I think T women and F men are often compatible for this reason. An F man needs a woman who seems strong. A T woman needs a man who brings out her emotional side, teaches her how to feel.
-At the same time, his emotions can seem easy or shallow to her, and she can feel betrayed just because she let her guard down. He'll feel guilty and paralyzed, and uncommunicative. His "uncritical" (in her eyes) stance toward other people and his expansive (and sometimes flirtatious) friendships can make her jealous.
-he can get frustrated by her forgetful, messy, spread-too-thin, juggling-too-much, not doing-any-one-well nature, and the inconsiderate ways she allows it to impact other people.
What are your thoughts/experience with this pairing?
This is what I'm thinking, to start with:
-power couple dynamic, both like to be the stars and both are good at making that happen. Similarly, able to keep up with each other, match wits, sometimes a competitive vibe. This make the relationship explosive, potential short lived, but pretty steamy...
-both like to advocate/teach/advise others, but in different ways. this makes them benevolent, compatible leaders of their brood or friend group.
-the NT in her admires his Jness... his ability to do math, balance a checkbook, and loves to let someone else be in charge for once. The Jness gives him an edge that allows her to maintain interest. He gets to "take care" of her in a way that she's not used to allowing. In general, I think J males and P females allow them to play out certain traditional gender roles that makes them compatible.
-He admires her independence, her confidence, her somewhat masculine nature. Her Tness keeps her just out of his grasp, he knows he'll always be somewhat emotionally vulnerable next to her, and that gives her a mystique needed to maintain his attraction. This flips around the gender roles a little bit.. I think T women and F men are often compatible for this reason. An F man needs a woman who seems strong. A T woman needs a man who brings out her emotional side, teaches her how to feel.
-At the same time, his emotions can seem easy or shallow to her, and she can feel betrayed just because she let her guard down. He'll feel guilty and paralyzed, and uncommunicative. His "uncritical" (in her eyes) stance toward other people and his expansive (and sometimes flirtatious) friendships can make her jealous.
-he can get frustrated by her forgetful, messy, spread-too-thin, juggling-too-much, not doing-any-one-well nature, and the inconsiderate ways she allows it to impact other people.
What are your thoughts/experience with this pairing?