what you are looking for-
In a partner, I've realized, I look for similarity. I need my partner to have some mutual interests or to be open minded enough to find my passions interesting. I need my partner to be ambitious about life. I'm looking for something bigger (undefined). And I need my partner to have at least an understanding for that. I need my partner to be able to listen. I need him to be a helping hand in all my endeavours.
And I need my partner to have a life of his own. I need him to be equally or more intelligent/knowledgeable than me. I need him to have a desire to learn and grow.
I need him to prioretize me. And intimacy.
what to look for (signals) that an ENTJ is emoting-
Enthusiasm! I get really enthusiastic around someone I'm attracted to. Doesn't have to be directed towards him, but in general. My energy level goes way up.
Proximity. I will keep you where I can see you.
Touching. That's my love language, so. But yeah, I don't like to be touched by people I don't find attractive, so if you find my hand close to yours and I'm not pulling it away, chances are I wanna grab it!
Questions. I get really curious about someone I like.
I'll give you a chance to hit on me. Sounds arrogant, maybe, but I don't like to be hit on usually. I want to be the hitter!
what triggers this desire in another-
Something about his eyes. His whole demeanour. I can instantly see if I'm gonna like this person or not, in that way. If I dig deeper, it's gonna be his mind that defines whether or not he can keep my desire.
I have to find him physically attractive too.
what are the phases leading up to a committed relationship-
Spending time with each other, I guess. Talking a lot. Sharing ideas, goals, ambitions, thoughts of the future. Sex. And just creating a little world for yourselves. I don't get into small talk until I know that person well enough (if I'm really interested); you'll never hear me asking you how your day was.
Generally.
On's:
Introverts.
Randomness.
Unusualness (unusual ideas, thoughts, things.. anything.)
Able to think for himself.
Can listen.
Intelligence.
Off's:
Party animals.
Victims. (the attitude)
Weakness.
Obvious people.