nynesneg
New member
- Joined
- Oct 18, 2009
- Messages
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- MBTI Type
- ENFJ
- Enneagram
- 3w2
Can't you just understand me? *pulls out hair*
Supposedly as ENFx we are natural geniuses when it comes to communication, and understanding people. In fact, according to type we are so charismatic and intuitive that we can easily convince people of what we think.
Do you ever have difficulty...
- Articulating your point of view in a debate. You initially speak it, then can't explain what makes perfect sense in your brain to the other person so they see your logic side of the argument. The argument seems like a waste of time, so you end up just shutting up and pretending to agree.
- Explaining a concept to someone else, a situation, or your logic for something. It makes sense in your brain, but getting the point out is difficult and you ramble then have to ask, "Did that make sense, answer your question, etc?"
- Reading another person's feelings is a piece of cake for you. But the whole picture...
- People tell you, "Sometimes it's as if we are speaking a totally different language." or "We communicate and think completely differently." when you thought everything was fine and you were trying to understand.(from a friend pov, or even a teacher/assignment pov)
I just hate it when I spend 6x the energy on a school assignment as the average person, and get a lousy grade on it because I didn't understand exactly what the teacher wanted. I pride myself in doing really good work, and go the extra mile to make it very professional. Seems that either the assignment ends up in the category of "Wow, this is the best I've ever seen.", or a C grade.
As a female I don't understand most women, beyond casual aquaintances. We just don't relate.
Supposedly as ENFx we are natural geniuses when it comes to communication, and understanding people. In fact, according to type we are so charismatic and intuitive that we can easily convince people of what we think.
Do you ever have difficulty...
- Articulating your point of view in a debate. You initially speak it, then can't explain what makes perfect sense in your brain to the other person so they see your logic side of the argument. The argument seems like a waste of time, so you end up just shutting up and pretending to agree.
- Explaining a concept to someone else, a situation, or your logic for something. It makes sense in your brain, but getting the point out is difficult and you ramble then have to ask, "Did that make sense, answer your question, etc?"
- Reading another person's feelings is a piece of cake for you. But the whole picture...
- People tell you, "Sometimes it's as if we are speaking a totally different language." or "We communicate and think completely differently." when you thought everything was fine and you were trying to understand.(from a friend pov, or even a teacher/assignment pov)
I just hate it when I spend 6x the energy on a school assignment as the average person, and get a lousy grade on it because I didn't understand exactly what the teacher wanted. I pride myself in doing really good work, and go the extra mile to make it very professional. Seems that either the assignment ends up in the category of "Wow, this is the best I've ever seen.", or a C grade.
As a female I don't understand most women, beyond casual aquaintances. We just don't relate.