LostInNerSpace
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So after converseing with another ENFP we both realise that other people tend to "fall in love" with us very quickly. Not saying that its "true" love their feeling but rather they grow very attached and think they fall in love, not sure rather or not its real. So it makes casual dateing very difficult, hell to tell the truth I havent casually dated since I was in middle school and of course that doenst count lol. So what im wondering is if this is a common thing for ENFPs like us and if your not an ENFP what is it like dateing us.
I know we are pretty much the cupid of personality types and relationships, especially intimate ones, are our biggest concern. But I didnt realise how powerful of relationship masters we can be, even with out conscious thought we make others "fall in love" with us.
So all thoughts appreciated.
Oddly enough I enounter this problem myself. Women seem to fall in love with me. But not immediately, always after having known me for some period of time. At first a woman might look at me funny, possibly thinking I'm strange or a little weird, because I am. Often I'll start to suspect a women likes me when I see her turning and walking in the opposite direction or otherwise trying to avoid me. That sounds counterintuitive but it does seems to be a marker of interest. Sometimes I'll think a woman dosen't like me at all, only to discover later that she actually did like me. I have no idea what I'm doing to make that happen, and I am completely unable to capitalize on it. It doesn't help that it is often women who are already involved in relationships.