Oh wait --
So I have the flip problem -- I give off the impression that I don't have enough time or focus for just 1 person. That I have a lot of people I'm always in different stages of involvement with. That I'm a "popular" or "busy" girl.
I *WANT* people to know that I have a lot going on in my life and while I may want to be with them and care for them, I'm not desperate and I *will* leave your ass if you don't come correct. In my experience, most people up to their early 30s are commitment phobes, aren't totally honest with themselves, and freak out easily when it comes to intimacy (not sex, intimacy).
I still freak out myself and always give the impression that I like you less or am less committed than I really am, because I don't want to be the one falling hard!
Truly though, I want people to know that I care about them enough to help them become an independent, confident, secure person. I think it's kinda sick to want to make someone dependent on you emotionally or otherwise because you're afraid of losing them. That's not love, that's fear and selfishness. And it's really fine line and hard to struggle with that happy medium of needing someone and wanting what's best for them.
For myself, I need to know the other person truly wants to be with me, not that they need a companion (any companion) or are afraid to be alone i.e. "think they are in love with" me.
My first girlfriend fell in love with me and after 3 years of ignoring her, STILL is in love with me HARD. I do NOT want that. I do NOT want people hanging onto me for dear life after I let them go. I do NOT want people trying to drag me down into dysfunctional hell. No thanks.
So yeah, I consciously took a very different route perhaps from other ENFPs on this site.