i have current situation that i think applies here. i don't know how i got to this outcome, so maybe some non-enfps can give me some feedback
I saw a guy I hung out with in highschool the other day. He asked for my number and said he was hanging out with the old group this weekend. He gave me a call and asked me to go to a music festival with said group yesterday. pushing through the crowd, he grabbed my hand to make sure we didn't get separated....then the hand holding continued when we were clear.
later, we went to a friends house and hung out. he sat on the couch next to me, fell asleep, woke up, then put his head in my lap and snuggled my leg while we watched a movie with about 8 people.
Now, I am not interested in this guy romantically. And at the end of the night I was called "his woman" by someone there. What was I supposed to do to get the point across. Shake his hand off and be standoffish? poke im in the eye when he put his head in my lap? Tell him I don't I'm not interested after a couple hours of hanging out?
If we give off the wrong impression by flirting (in this case, I felt like I was simply avoiding being a bitch), what do we need to do to clarify what the situation is? I can usually tell if someone is interested in a more-than-friends way after about 15 minutes, wouldn't it be jumping the gun to say "Hey, hold up, you might be liking me, just want to make sure you don't do that"?