CC said:Yes, it is true that at times we do not like confrontation, however, we, or I, at least, will/would *never* "let people get away with all kinds off stuff (solely) to be loved". If I am desperate of anything in regards to relating with others, it would be that of making an honest connection, and not of needing to feel loved or admired by them.
I think it's also that ENFPs will confront when someone they care for is being attacked (or themselves too), as indicated by nemo's friend and what I've learned of ENFPs. Do they like it? No or not always. And it might feel good defending the weak or your friend or yourself. I certaintly enjoy playing Justice. It's Poetic to me... But you'll do it because you feel it's the appopriate thing to do! I recall your defense of your friend CN and that guy. (and well, the rest of it which you can ignore if I triggered your memory or explaining myself certaintly did so...er.... But again, demonstrating you'll confront when you feel it's right to do so! Huzzah!)
Originally Posted by Desert Flower
but on the other hand they can come across as tactless and cruel.
CC said:Tactless? At times, yes. Cruel? Never.
I think, the missing link here, is that ENFPs (or any other Type) can seem tactless and cruel but that doesn't mean that the ENFP (or any other Type) is deliberately being so. A person may very well misperceive the ENFP. And really, DF, I think if that particular ENFP is being cruel towards someone, if they really are and are not misperceived as being so, then that's just an ENFP who's uspet or emotionally unhealthy. Can happen to any Type-- INFJ, ESTJ etc.
CC said:This is so antithetical to the person I am, and the way I conduct myself, that it damn near renders me speechless. I am assuming that most, if not all other ENFPs would agree that this behavior is not indicative of them.
Yea, I was a bit irked too lol. So, again DF, I'll say those ENFPs are just emotionally unhealthy/upset should they 'backlash' and again any other Type can do the same, albiet differently or through different stages.
CC said:It's been my experience that girls who are "sweet", tend not only to have retractable fangs, but to also harbor insidious intentions.
No CC, don't listen to the station you're at! Tune the stereo into a better one! (But I know you said in your exp, so and no, I'm not entirely seen as sweet. Depends. Sometimes I'm told I'm cold or distant or just a weirdo!! )
CC!!!!!!! said:On the phone right now.
Hiya DD!!!!!
Hiiiiiii! I was waiting on ya! Oh man, another xxxP who's multitasking while being on the phone. I must study this secret.