Very true.
"Seeing" the truth and understanding it is ultra-important for me.
I'm an ENTP, and this is very strong within me as well. It could be the cousins thing.
The girl I am most enthralled with that I see is an ENFP. I would say that everything I've read about ENFP + ENTP relationships is pretty spot on. We are eerily similar. We both love EVERY subject. We both love kids and animals, and we both love to teach. We both love to have back and forths of wild, imaginative ideas. We're both assertive, confident, and independent. We both are messy and shitty with deadlines. We both love to travel, together, or alone. She's also the only girl I've been with that allows me to have extramarital relations with other girls while she's out of town, and I let her do the same. We both feel "equal," with each other, and hate for either person to be the dominant person in the relationship. We both also accept that extenuating c The major differences I can spot between us are thus:
- I tire of most people after a while. I love interacting, meeting, and talking with new people, and I feel like I go out of my way to find common ground with people, so that we can bro down on things. I have to see NEW people, though...even some of my best friends bore me in a couple hours, and I feel this strange desire to go out into the world and see what other shit can happen. Ultimately, however, I am generally unconcerned with, and will begin to manipulate, or simply not talk to, these people if
1. They show disinterest in my ideas, or they don't understand my humor.
2. There is nothing for me to gain from the relationship, or
3. They seem "stupid," or "stereotypical."
4. They try to limit me in any of my actions
4. They aren't "honest," or, they fail to recognize the logical inconsistency in their actions. I HATE when I can see through a person's motivation, yet they still lie to my face. (IE, Girls who are promiscuous, and obviously so, yet will call other girls sluts, religious people who claim to be ultrareligious yet they do things against the mantra of their God all the time.)
She, on the other hand, treats EVERYONE like they are her best friend. I haven't met a single person that doesn't like her. She also doesn't try to manipulate or control situations politically for her own gain...it just happens. She also wears her heart on her sleeve, whereas my interactions with people are like, slight variants on characters of who I am, so that I can distance myself and be objective in every situation, and keep my guard up. There are people she doesn't like, and whatnot, but being around her in social situations is almost a stress reliever...I know she will be able to make everyone like her and make them think I'm cool, too. Whereas, I can, by myself, at times, "blow the room." Sometimes everyone hates me, haha.
- I am able to explicitly express everything that comes into my head into words. She cannot. Oftentimes, when I try to ask her to explain how she made a deep decision, it takes her an extremely long time, and we have to have a lot of back and forth to get to an answer. I love these conversations, though. She just, "does." It's how she feels. From an outside look, the decisions are generally good ones, so they seem based on logic. They just aren't.
- She tries to explain to me that she gets an overwhelming feeling, especially in travel, that she is connected to everything and that everything is her. I can logically see how that is possible, however, I only get this, "feeling" if I took 3 ecstacy pills or some mushrooms.
- She has absolutely no connection to money. It could be because of having wealthy parents, but my parents do well, and I still have a longing to have money, all the time. Not necessarily to spend it, but to have it in case a spontaneous situation comes about that can be easily solved with money. It's like, not having money severely limits
- Her "reads" of people are better than mine. She really can guess everything about a person and how they're currently feeling with a glance. Whereas I use a bunch of filters and systems to stereotype a person and guess what they're about.
- Her drive is much, much more focused. She wants to teach 5th graders, (and is excellent at it in every way). I want to be a superstar DJ, linguist, fashionista, MMA fighter, singer/dancer/songwriter, entrepreneur, teacher, social commentator, comedian, philanthropist, and writer.
- I like smoking weed, she likes drinking beer. We both partake in either, but I am generally lighting a blunt as soon as I get home, she is grabbing a beer. Don't know if this has anything to do with anything.
Wow...this is getting too long. WHOOPS.