Thanks for the feedback all! Loving this discussion
if he is afraid to tell you to shut up while getting annoyed from you talking.
As this point, as an ISTJ, I would say he is scared all right.
But ISTJ? Ummmmm..... If it works for you that's great. More power to you. But seriously, an ENFP with an ISTJ?
Just remember that as an ENFP you are very good at tailoring your approach to the needs of the people around you. But there is some stuff in your personality that is uniquely ENFP... and you're going to want to be able to express these aspects of you in the presence of (and even have it celebrated by) your significant other. ISTJs, in my humble experience, are not going to cleave to your ENFP-ness. So proceed with caution.
I know, what am I thinking, right? I used to be like that- I had a rule to only date N but this guy is really different- I have had conversations with him that I rarely do with other people, I have had laughs with him because we are on the same page, I have really enjoyed it and its maybe cos he is such a borderline S/N but whatever it is, we have had fun and so his ISTJ-ness cant be the reason I shouldn't give this a shot.
Thanks for the link and the warning- I have a feeling I might have messed it up but with him, one never knows- Argh- if only there was a way to sit him down and just lay my cards straight out!
So, be who you're going to be, and damn the outcome
Thanks! Damn the outcome indeed- he has this week or else I am moving on, I dont like games!
Syptg- fairpoint. I should look at it from a S perspective but to get to that stage, I need to get past the current hurdle first, I think. I am an ENFP- I would have a fantasy world built in my head in 5 sec flat if you gimme a chance!!
Stringstheory- very valid points. I am in my late 20s- a little old to be doing this type of swooning
And I am being me, but instead of going 0 to 100 as we ENFPs can, I am trying to go slower so he can understand me better...
But don't alter who you are just to get your foot in the door.. false advertising is good for no one in relationships.
Wise words, my fried. But is going slower altering myself- its still me. I can't not be me, I find it very stressful!
Same here. I lead guys on a lot, but not purposefully. And I tend to be attracted to NT minds too, but I have no idea how to make them happy with me without completely changing who I am (which I really am pretty much incapable of). So if anyone knows an answer to THAT one, I would really like to hear it, too.
NT has been my default for so long. I love them. You don't need to change yourself to be happy- you just need to understand them. They think and they think abstract- subtlety never works with them. Their idea of romance is in action and I personally think NF/NT relationships are very good.
Their lack of intuition is SO ANNOYING. They just don't get it.
Yes, he is all you described but he does seem to get it. Or atleast so far, our conversations have been similar. He gets abstract more often than not and he cam connect my dots even if it take shim time and he likes to very much be in the present but you see, that grounds me. With no shred of S in me, I like that practical someone around. He seems to find my "ditziness" cute and loves the way I can balance it with a very successful and oragnised career.