alcea rosea
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yeah pretty much what I'm saying
Whoops, didin't notice I was repeating your words.
What I should have said is that I agree with your (previous) post. :
yeah pretty much what I'm saying
do not EVER put all your eggs in one basket.
And thanks Izzybeef for the advise, do you mean loyal as " I only sleep with you"?
Hey,
If i try to put myself in the situation you are refering to, in the limits of my understanding, i tend to think...
You seem to expect a "decision" from him (be with you or not like a commitment) but is this his way of proceeding? It's not mine. I don't "decide" to be someone.
It happens that i feel good (or not) when i see that person. I feel stuff i wouldn't feel otherwise. And it may be quite basic, but finally of absolute importance for me to build a relationship: how we cook and eat together, how we sleep. Does it happen that we decide for a movie or a trip or a restaurant at the last minute?
For me, a real relationship fulfills various needs, including very basic ones i tend to forget if not in a relationship. What stays at the end is not the 'discussions' but those basic stuff + that silent look at the landscape we shared from the window of a train, our ability to dream about that travel that never occured...
Euh... so if you are expecting any advise, and if the guy was me, i would suggest not to wait for a "decision" but try instead to share with him really basic needs on a regular basis. Make him feel he's alive with you, can rest, share food, bed, jokes. He will finally come back everyday.
It's just what i think.
Great news he came back!