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You know, I do understand the gist of 'anti-weakness' in ENFP and interesting that another ENXP like Sub picked up on the ENFP need for independence -- both in themselves and other people *to an extent*
However, I totally didn't find the description in the OP weak and not having heard the tone of voice over the phone or knowing the guy myself, I can't think of how I'd get irritated. Unless I thought the were being lazy or just expecting me to do something for them -- being needy.
I don't understand the concept of calling men 'weak' or being disgusted when they act like "wusses". I think it's endearing when a man shows a sensitive or vulnerable side. I interpret it as being comfortable enough with themselves and their masculinity to act naturally. Hiding behind masks and 'how men/women/etc.' are "supposed" to act is just lame, yo.
And always having to and expecting others to fit into roles (when not at work) is just way too limiting of the human experience.
I dunno, I also have antipathy to certain kinds of "weakness" but men acting "too girly" is definitely NOT one of them. I actually prefer men who can readily admit their feelings and being scared, hurt, etc. And you don't have to be a weepy, emo guy to do that. You can be multidimensional.
Anywhoo, maybe this non-issue for me is related to the fact that I have not and do not really date bio-males.
However, I totally didn't find the description in the OP weak and not having heard the tone of voice over the phone or knowing the guy myself, I can't think of how I'd get irritated. Unless I thought the were being lazy or just expecting me to do something for them -- being needy.
I don't understand the concept of calling men 'weak' or being disgusted when they act like "wusses". I think it's endearing when a man shows a sensitive or vulnerable side. I interpret it as being comfortable enough with themselves and their masculinity to act naturally. Hiding behind masks and 'how men/women/etc.' are "supposed" to act is just lame, yo.
And always having to and expecting others to fit into roles (when not at work) is just way too limiting of the human experience.
I dunno, I also have antipathy to certain kinds of "weakness" but men acting "too girly" is definitely NOT one of them. I actually prefer men who can readily admit their feelings and being scared, hurt, etc. And you don't have to be a weepy, emo guy to do that. You can be multidimensional.
Anywhoo, maybe this non-issue for me is related to the fact that I have not and do not really date bio-males.