I don't think showing vulnerability is weak. Pretending you don't have any yourself is weak.
I do think this may be an ENFP achille's heel, but it's also just human nature.
We despise the things that remind us either of our own weaknesses or fears.
And nobody can be as disgusted with us as we are with ourselves.
I've definitely gotten fed up by people who wallow in their own inertia, depression, blah blah blah and refuse to do anything about their lives. Even after given many opportunities, tools, advice, directives.
I know currently I try to avoid these people at all costs and minimize their effect on my life. And I can get really irritated when I feel like they're trying to drag me down with them or trying to bring everyone down around them or basically reducing themselves to rubble even against advice and *obvious* signs pointing them in another direction.
Why? Partly because I can identify with this kind of damning inertia and "stubborness"
And there is no way I want to get stuck with that bag again. That issue is my krytopnite! So when I see it manifest in others, my reaction is
I know what being in that situation is like and more importantly, I feel like I know how to get out of it. "I can do it, you can, too!" That's what I think more or less. And watching people struggle like that frustrates me to no end because it reminds me of my own struggles and reminds me of a place that feels uncomfortably close or just plain unpleasant.
Soooo, that's kinda how I'm reading your situation.
Where's Edahn Mr. Buddhist/transformational therapy devotee? I wanna see what he has to say!
Anywhoo, I also don't like how the term 'weakness' is thrown around so easily. It needs defining. Otherwise, I just take the value of 'weak' which to me automatically means 'wrong', 'inferior', 'loser' -- and I kinda think that's what you meant.
I think the 'NF males have it harder' argument can be carried on in its own thread -- which was started by Angry Aryab.