Are there any serious EQ or SQ (Social Quotient) tests available? Like academic/scientific ones?
As Night said, there aren't any online "good" ones, ie statistically proven valid/reliable, standardized.
The more "official" emotional intelligence scales are: EQ-i, EQ-360, and MSCEIT. A person who desires to take one of these scales should seek out a psychologist. Not all psychologists are able to give the tests, either. One must "buy into" giving such a test, meaning taking expensive courses in order to certify and even obtain the test to give in the first place. One might expect to pay around $500 or more for such an assessment. Not very practical.
The good news is that the stereotype of high iq = low eq stereotype
is just a myth. Such ppl are
very, very rare. I would expect this to mean the test taken in this thread
is not valid in the least, as many individuals received scores much lower than is likely.
For example, yes, 70 and below is considered literally "mental retardation." It is extremely unlikely for so many to take the test to get such low scores, bc to post on the forum most individuals would have an iq of at least 100. That's a guess, but honestly, folks, individuals with IQ's 90 and below would struggle to spend their free time engaging in discussion about personality type in an online forum. Trust me. I have worked with this population quite closely.
RARITY. If most users of the forum have iqs of at least 100, and I would venture to say the majority here is higher than in the general pop, at least 110 (which is VERY likely, given the fact that is not even one standard deviation from the mean) then for the majority of those who took the test to score so lowly? Impossible, if the test were truly valid. Even for individuals who believe or feel their EQ is lower than their IQ for whatever reason, the likelihood that their EQ is lower than IQ more than, say, 10 pts would be VERY VERY RARE. Extremely. Like so rare that it would take severe brain damage, basically, or
being locked in a closet for 5 years during childhood while being tutored (and what is the likelihood of that?) in order for IQ to not lag behind too much.
From my experience, those who feel uncomfortable in social situations do merely bc they feel uncomfortable in social situations. Such a "feeling" does NOT indicate low EQ. What does this mean? Such individuals would benefit greatly from socializing more instead of avoiding social contact, or, from just hanging out and doing what you are already doing if it makes you happy. It doesn't really matter. What matters is what it takes to maintain your self-respect, sanity, and self-esteem.
For those that would like to strengthen confidence in their social/emotional intelligence, consider practicing the following, which are scales of one of the intelligence test I mentioned in the beginning of this post.
5 Domains of Social Intelligence
1. Knowing one's emotions. Self-awareness, recognizing a feeling when it happens.
2. Managing Emotions. The ability of handling emotions so they are appropriate.
3. Motivating oneself. Marshalling emotions in the service of a goal.
4. Recognizing emotions in others. Empathy, social awareness.
5. Handling Relationships. Skill in managing emotions in others.
Or, if you prefer,
4 Domains of Social Intelligence
1. Self-Awareness (Emotional Self-Awareness, Accurate Self-Assessment and Self Confidence)
2. Self-Management (Emotional Self-Control, Transparency (Trustworthiness), Adaptability, Achievement Orientation, Initiative, Optimism, Conscientiousness)
3. Social Awareness (Empathy, Organizational Awareness, Service Orientation)
4. Leadership Management (Inspirational Leadership, Influence, Developing Others, Change Catalyst, Conflict Management, Building Bonds, Teamwork and Collaboration, Communication)
Oh, and one more thing.
The developers of these tests adhere to the belief that these abilities are NOT innate, but learned.