Galena
Silver and Lead
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I feel these things when someone might call out or stir up a part of me that I have rejected out of shame. Either a part I have tried to lock down and starve, or have painted over with a self-image. The felt compulsion is being torn between withdrawing and courting damnation by baring it all, these reactive extremes making it obvious that we're drawing close to a problem within me.
In cases where the other person actually is crossing a boundary, ironically I feel disinterested instead of invaded. It's easier in this situation to do something moderate: just decline to give the next detail and move on with the conversation. People are typically okay with that if it's not done to excess.
In cases where the other person actually is crossing a boundary, ironically I feel disinterested instead of invaded. It's easier in this situation to do something moderate: just decline to give the next detail and move on with the conversation. People are typically okay with that if it's not done to excess.