I'm involved with an INTP who seems to be able to keep sex purely recreational - or at least, detached. I can't read her. When together, she is completely present and into the moment. When apart, she falls off the face of the earth. Question: is it easier for NTs to detach from the emotions involved in sex? As I said in a post elsewhere, for an ENFP sex + no contact for next few days = gasp!! Although, she does always return - on her terms...
Last time I had sex with emotions thrown into it the following happened.
I called her 30 times in one day, I wasn't thinking straight.
I used my fake myspace's to make her jealous so she would come over, but I wasn't thinking straight and she saw through it not to mention I wasn't thinking straight when I decided to do that int he first place.
I called her practically everyday.
More and more stupid things persisted to happen till about a month went by and I started to think clearly again. Then I reallized that I fucked things up and was never going to have her back, because I got emotional during sex.
That was the only time I let emotions leak out during sex.
All the times before that it usually goes like this.
We have sex, I don't bother to call which leads to either.
a. She calls me too soon and I don't want to be bothered.
b. She calls after some time not hearing from me and it's fine.
c. She never calls and I never care
2.a. eventually I'll get irritated by her persistant calling but I'm not about about someone to call when I'm feeling biological urges to fuck.
b. I'll most likely end up in a healthy relationship with her and it's fine.
c. I might run into her somewhere, maybe we'll hang out. But I generally pretend like nothing ever happened and things are reset.
This is why I don't brings emotions to sex.