substitute
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I have a hard time drawing those lines, so for me (at least right now) it pretty much IS either of those first two options. I know myself well enough to know that I have a hard time telling people that I don't have time or energy to be supportive if I see that they need that, so it's probably best for everyone if they call another friend.
Yeah I know what you mean, I've been like that sometimes in the past, and at times still can be. If someone does need me to be supportive, Satan will be installing solar panels before I turn them away. But if it turns out they don't need me so much, or when it seems they've sorted themselves out or got whatever it was out of their system and their equilibrium is restored, I'll gently remind them that it's kinda late now or I was in the middle of something, and y'know, it's no bother, but could they just please piss off now, so I can get on with it?
This is probably why I have the one close friend and many satellite friends who I can't seem to bump up to that "good friend" level.
y'know, I've known a lot of introverts say that, apparently unaware that there are quite a few people who think a lot of them and care about them, and would like to turn to them (would rather, than anyone else), but perceive them as unavailable and unaccessible, which sometimes confuses/upsets them (they take it personally), and so turn to others. The introvert might think these others are the person's preferred friends, when it's not always so...
Sometimes I've been that person, looking at the introvert I really like (who is one of the few people I miss when they're not around) as they say this, and wondering WTF I have to do to make them realise I like them and they're important to me?