Noticed this happens accidentally to INFJs quite often.
Other types maybe, make this mistake more often than INFJs.
It is just that INFJs lament more?
Or
A Si failure on Riva's behalf?
Or
INFJs do hurt feelings quite often? (Accidentally or Deliberately)
I hurt a coworkers feelings the other day.
I was handling two telephone conversations at once (a phone held to each ear) as I'm walking to go and handle another problem that needs my attention. This coworker approached me and called my name in a loadish tone to get my attention, which he succeded in doing. He then asked me if I could handle his need. I replied in a neutral tone as I could muster that "I am a little busy at the moment, talk to coworker X, she can help you" as I turned to walk toward something that needed my attention. I thought nothing of this and continued about my business.
I would later learn that shortly after this the coworker spoke with one of my supervisors with another coworker present and made the simple statement "That's one rude MFer" in reference to me. He then recounted his version of events to my supervisor. This coworker was so worked up my supervisor felt he needed to address the matter immediately and brought it up to my attention minutes later. The coworker conveniently forgot to mention that I had added "go see soandso for assistance" and focused on how I told him I was too busy for him and did so in a dismissive manner. After hearing my version of events and taking all things into consideration it was determined that I had done nothing "wrong". Ironically the coworker was reprimanded for using that kinda language at work in front of others (there was another coworker present when he launched his F bomb).
Fe doms and secondaries are all also J's. (ESFJ, ENFJ, INFJ, ISFJ) and some, when upset (social ettiquette violations?), tend to start emoting all over in an attempt to garner support/sympathy over percieved mistreatment quite easy. This coworker has "priors" for such behavior.
Me and my ENFX friend/coworker joke about this incident frequently. Sometimes I will out of the blue talk about how I am taking advantage of our company benefit to see a shrink to work on not being a rude mother f***er and play that up. At other times such as when I send an email suggesting disciplinary action against someone for not following rules/policy my coworker rolls his eyes at me and I simply respond "remember I'm a rude MFer and thats what we do... right?" We both laugh.
Me and said coworker are currently "getting along" by the way.
As to wether or not it's INFJ Lament I don't know, but I have observed that one of the ways Fe's suck people in is to illicit sympathy.
Spanky McFly
P.S. reading comprehension FTW! Yeah I just now noticed that this thread is meant as a question for INFJ's, oops.