Totenkindly
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Okay, I finished episode 8.
There's one thing in the face of #MeToo here...
Anyway, it's definitely continuing to move along nicely.
I wish the actor playing Foggy (Eldon Hensen) was better. He definitely is a likable actor, but he's just not in the same league as Charlie Cox (Matt) or Deborah Ann Woll (Karen) in terms of raw acting talent although he's not as bad as Keanu. Even some of the supporting cast outshines him (like the newspaper editor).
There's one thing in the face of #MeToo here...
Dex is creeping on Julie. I do appreciate seeing it from his perspective, but the whole freaking time I was feeling REALLY uncomfortable watching him stalk her, manipulate her, then tacitly threaten her. Then he tries to go back and "apologize" but he's so damned needy about it, so even when he's trying to NOT be threatening, he's being MORE threatening! (A he also puts her on a pedestal too, so there's no way she WON'T fail him in the end.) I don't know if they meant to write it this way, but it was a very sad, very real view of women dealing with troubled men.
The thing is, he could call a suicide line if he has problems; just the fact he couldn't let go of her and seemed to latch onto her IS the problem. And you could see it by her responses to him. Of course, Fisk is a creep enough to put an end to all that, to fuck Dex over more; but the fact is that Julie was victimized by Dex here and had no easy way to extract herself, even if on SOME level Dex was trying not to hurt her.
But basically the deal is that it doesn't matter what Dex's intentions are or what stress he is under; the problem is that he is unbalanced, and invasive, and trying to use her for his own stability, and she never asked for that or really wanted it. he puts her in that situation of either "helping someone in need" or "responsible for his breakdown," which is something abusive guys do to women regularly, and women are typically more vulnerable to that ploy, if not because women might more often feel bad but because we are stuck trying to navigate in a situation in a way that reduces the physical threat to ourselves.
That's what Julie was doing here; she had to balance out whether it worth potentially setting Dex off by refusing him, or whether it was more dangerous to engage him. She tried to take the middle of the road approach. I guess we will never know either because ANOTHER man -- one with power, who just saw her as a vulnerability in Dex that was purposefully cultivated, removed her to make him a more valuable tool. Jeesussssss
The thing is, he could call a suicide line if he has problems; just the fact he couldn't let go of her and seemed to latch onto her IS the problem. And you could see it by her responses to him. Of course, Fisk is a creep enough to put an end to all that, to fuck Dex over more; but the fact is that Julie was victimized by Dex here and had no easy way to extract herself, even if on SOME level Dex was trying not to hurt her.
But basically the deal is that it doesn't matter what Dex's intentions are or what stress he is under; the problem is that he is unbalanced, and invasive, and trying to use her for his own stability, and she never asked for that or really wanted it. he puts her in that situation of either "helping someone in need" or "responsible for his breakdown," which is something abusive guys do to women regularly, and women are typically more vulnerable to that ploy, if not because women might more often feel bad but because we are stuck trying to navigate in a situation in a way that reduces the physical threat to ourselves.
That's what Julie was doing here; she had to balance out whether it worth potentially setting Dex off by refusing him, or whether it was more dangerous to engage him. She tried to take the middle of the road approach. I guess we will never know either because ANOTHER man -- one with power, who just saw her as a vulnerability in Dex that was purposefully cultivated, removed her to make him a more valuable tool. Jeesussssss
Anyway, it's definitely continuing to move along nicely.
I wish the actor playing Foggy (Eldon Hensen) was better. He definitely is a likable actor, but he's just not in the same league as Charlie Cox (Matt) or Deborah Ann Woll (Karen) in terms of raw acting talent although he's not as bad as Keanu. Even some of the supporting cast outshines him (like the newspaper editor).