haha oh wow! pressure much?
so i was single for... 20+ years? did a little dating, nothing significant... i
pined over people for a long time during that... now as a non-single... i just want to say, i don't think you really have
less problems, just different ones... 0_o
i mean obviously i think my relationship is worth staying in, but i think it's important to remember that NFP emotional life is just
complicated... we're screwed emotionally regardless of whether we're in a relationship or not. when you're not, you're dreaming of one, and when you are, you're dreaming of how it could be made better and scared of losing it. that pining feeling doesn't go away, it just shifts... it shifts to wanting to be around the person you're with when they're gone, it shifts to wishing you had more time to spend with them, it shifts to wishing things were better between the two of you... even when it's really, really good, your mind is stuck on "if we could just tweak this one thing..."
kinda the downside to being an idealist, always looking for how to make things better