People say that values need to be aligned for relationships to work. One problem I have found in my relationship is that I like to stay out late, sometimes all night if my friends are having a party and my boyfriend hates it when I do this. I'm enfp and he is istp. He also has a tendency to stay out all night on occassion but thats another matter.
A close friend of mine is isfp and her boyfriend is entp. They have the same problem where the entp stays out all night and the isfp has a freak attack when he does this.
So I was googling what other people think of their SO staying out all night and I found a mixed bag of opinions. Some say they wouldnt tolerate it and others say quit being an insecure control freak and just let your SO live their life.
Many people gave the advice that if it is important to you that your partner come home and- if its important to your partner to have the freedom to stay out and socialise, then you are incompatible and should break up.
Now knowing what I do about introverts and extroverts and how we differ in our needs when it comes to socialising, how can this ever be reconciled? Have other people found this to be an ongoing issue? Is this really a values thing or is it just a different needs thing?
A close friend of mine is isfp and her boyfriend is entp. They have the same problem where the entp stays out all night and the isfp has a freak attack when he does this.
So I was googling what other people think of their SO staying out all night and I found a mixed bag of opinions. Some say they wouldnt tolerate it and others say quit being an insecure control freak and just let your SO live their life.
Many people gave the advice that if it is important to you that your partner come home and- if its important to your partner to have the freedom to stay out and socialise, then you are incompatible and should break up.
Now knowing what I do about introverts and extroverts and how we differ in our needs when it comes to socialising, how can this ever be reconciled? Have other people found this to be an ongoing issue? Is this really a values thing or is it just a different needs thing?