This represents sterotypical NFP mistake in interpretation. Just because I said it that doesn't mean that I will stand by this opninion and that this is my final answer. This is thinking out loud until proven otherwise. Since what I said is simply verbalisation of what facts suggest in my head. What is why I bacame pseudo INTJ because my family couldn't deal with the constant judgements.
I said something that simply represents what I tend to think or suggest, but I never claimed that this is final truth or the word of God. Because as a Te dom you are the one with the plan and the one that will/should build the structure. Therefore with this you simply signal everybody how far we went as a group and what is bottom line at this point. Fe dom would perhaps try to run from the holes in the system but real Te dom would know that this is unsustanable on the long run. (in my opinion)
As I said few lines before, this is simply how it looks to me (the most probable conclusion), I never said there are no alternatives. On the other hand you are process oriented instead of goal oriented and you don't "publish" anything until you are certain. (especially because you claim to be fear type) Since you have uncomfort with conclusions and you see than as something to be avoided. When you are building Nuclear power plant this is reasonable but in most real life situations it isn't. Talk may be cheap but it isn't forbidden.
VG, I really enjoy discussing things with you and know that I could learn a shitload from you about the world, etc. <-I mean, I'm not the best at expressing these kinds of sentiments in spite of being a bleeding heart/feeler and so I hope you are able to sense that I truly mean that. Again, I think there are many things that I don't know or am misinformed on that you could correct and/or enlighten me on. The above though...
Like, I'm not attached to being right. That's not why I'm here. Perhaps I don't communicate in the nicest of ways and so it appears like I'm just trying to be corrective or something for sport or image or whathaveyou... No. I'm here because I think you are a great person that has a lot to offer another human being in a relationship...not even an FP...I'm just using FP as a way to discuss what is a more general issue. From what I gather about you...you would ultimately like to end-up in a partnership. And my overall message is...I believe there is something with regards to your thinking that is causing you to arrive at a variety of different "temporary conclusions" that will make fulfilling that goal challenging for you. These assumptions...or temporary conclusions that you announce to the group...I could see this method as working decently I suppose if you were leading an army into battle or trying to make a lot of money perhaps. But if interpersonal relationships are the order of the day...then I'm hoping you can take a step back and call on some different strategies. If interpersonal relationships aren't important...then keep on truckin.
Just out of curiosity...what caused you to arrive at a check-point conclusion that you announce to the group/assume...that I didn't already completely understand all of what you just told me I didn't? Like, this is precisely what I'm talking about. Above you temporarily decided I was merely expressing a "sterotypical NFP mistake in interpretation"...and then move forward (you are acting on these temporary opinions/conclusions which was my expressed concern prior to you just doing it again) by telling me a whole bunch of stuff that I already knew and had taken into consideration just before saying exactly what I said. Do you see how this kind of response might be...not just insulting but downright bizarre for people wanting to establish a relationship with you? Perhaps here it would only be ENFPs that suffer...I don't know. So I'm asking...what caused you to "temporarily conclude and act" or assume I didn't already get all of this?
This is too Fi like question for me to give simple answer. I want what I consider accurate and best in the current situation. Because what wins you situations isn't quality or quantity, but ratio between quality and quantity that is deployed well under the circumstances. You can have incredible grasp of the facts but if you are in the wrong place in the wrong time this may not matter at all.
But ot be honest I am not sure what you are trully asking me. (English isn't my first langauge)
I'm not sure why you announced and acted on a temporary opinion that my question was born of Fi (I was trying to create a very black and white question but most likely failed)...but I can see how it would be too broad to give a simple answer. I'm thinking if you address what I just wrote there's no need for me to break things down here.
To tell you the truth I used to be like you, gathering little pieces of information, creating constructes, reading a few books a day etc. Since I was tought this is a good thing.
However through messiness of life I have realized that this isn't really a living, living is going out there and making a difference, remaking the situations, spreading the information etc.
Above...are you arriving at a temporary opinion and then expressing it as if it were true that a small pleasure I have in life interferes with me going out there and making a difference?
I suppose it is reasonable, but on the other hand it can be very alienating if people think that you should be someone else.
I don't think people want you to be someone else. If they did you wouldn't have attracted them in the first place. I think people don't always know how to initiate engagement with others and at times stupid things happen.