We will have to agree to disagree on Mole.
I was not refuting the article in its approach or its veracity. I attempted to add to it with with-that-being-said-now-what motive. The truth is that there is never much resolution in life, but our future wellbeing and self-actualization need not be held hostage to it. No matter how much help these children get to deal with the childhood abuse, healing will always start from the point where the now adult makes the choice to take control, in the present, of their life and safeguard their future from being defined by what was not a choice. To this triumph of human spirit, I attest and pay obeisance, which is the most important moment of reckoning in our lives.
I did not give extreme examples to belittle anybody's suffering. As a rule, role models and exemplars like Elisabeth Fritzl or Jaycee Duggard are a cut above the rest. They are by no means average people and we should never compare the resiliency of the victims of abuse anyway. The point was to see them as inspiration for all of us who, not being dead, have to survive and move on. How well we do that depends a lot on the attitude of the person, the kind of therapy they receive and the message they get from the environment.
There is a certain popular trend to take the power away from the survivor in the name of validating their pain by overanalyzing and overfocusing on the past to the point where it becomes the causa causum of everything that happens afterwards. This may
feel good in the short run, but never helps in my experience.
I don't agree with that approach. Maybe that is what is registering here as not being politically correct or supportive enough of the victims?
I have no idea, how else to put though.