cafe
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- Apr 19, 2007
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- MBTI Type
- INFJ
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- 9w1
I can voice my opinion. I don't like to hurt nice people so I often won't do it unless I feel somewhat pushed. I was more timid when I was younger but I remember when my boss's boss, a tall, large, older preacher with a booming preacher voice, got in my face for doing something that I had a good reason for doing. I yelled right back at him, even though I was 5'2" and under 90lbs and soft-spoken. (Asshat left me alone after that but tore my boss a new one.) He was being a dick and I can't tolerate bullies. Someone might catch me off guard and I might not react immediately, but I can stand up for myself.Conduct all the polls:
For those who score INFj as an INFJ, on a scale of 1 to 5 (please use as much self-awareness as possible, introspect like hell for accuracy, 5 being extremely accurate), how much do you relate to this?
Inferiority complex surrounding asserting oneself or asserting ones' dominance over others. The individual extremely dislikes overly aggressive people but cannot voice any opinion concerning aggressive people due to fear of being a new target for others' assertive nature. Fears being criticized for lack of self-assertion, as this is perceived as one's main flaw as an individual, aggressive, domineering nature seen as somewhat evil and patronizing (yet also somewhat perceived as admirable with a twinge of envy). Intolerant of conflict, disliking to take place in any conflict due not because it disturbs the peace but because one cannot take a strong stance against another without ultimately losing somehow. Wants badly to self-assert themselves, but any attempts at doing so ultimately fail, always.
I don't generally like to dominate. I was uncomfortable when that was a big part of my parenting responsibilities. I can do it if I have to, but I much prefer collaboration, negotiation, and autonomy. I won't lead if there is someone else who is even marginally competent who is willing to do it.