Fecal McAngry
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- Oct 31, 2009
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Give it time. Give the whole thing time...especially as you may not fully understand whatever his perspective & experience was. While I understand your need for closure, real life can weirdly unpredictable. On Facebook, several of my friends are women I had emotionally messy breakups or whatnot with. At the time, I preferred not to interact with them, but now, many years hence, I'm happy to talk to them and know that they are well...It was VERY disorienting, and unfortunately for me, I was most certainly exploited while emotionally vulnerable.
I'm glad you weren't being manipulative towards your INTJ friend; doing so and maintaining contact with her would have been a bad idea. We plan long-term, and I happen to enjoy me some revenge.
I in essence gave up any chance for revenge by cutting all ties with him. It's far more emotionally healthy this way, but there is a piece of me that wants to demonstrate to him what it's like to tangle with me when I'm not baking pies and making cow eyes at him. Just a small piece. And the desire will fade over time along with the anger.
The wind knocks my window, the room it is wet.
The words to say I'm sorry, I haven't found yet.
I think of her often and hope whoever she's met
Will be fully aware of how precious she is.
--Bob Dylan, INFP--