If that's the case, I'm a thoroughly non-sexy ESTJ.
Okay, I'll re-phrase:
I guess I was technically agreeing with you, because Te-doms exude certainty, pretty much nonstop. And constant certainty means constant confidence that things either are going, or soon
will go, a particular way. It means that no matter how confident a Te-dom is feeling, they still look 100% confident to the rest of the world.
This has been my experience, anyway.
Hi, I have a question.
Basically I have been typing all my friends/acquaintances/ex lovers and i am literally surrounded by ESTJs. They all try and control me/often they bug me. And it is always them that initiate/maintain the contact. Is there something about ISTPs that you feel the need to save/control/organise?
Thanks
I wonder if some of this is just normal ESTJ behavior, that's being perceived by you as trying to "organize" you or control you because you're an ISTP. What I mean is: if an ESTJ wants to hang out with someone, they will call them. If that person doesn't have an explicit opinion on where and when they should hang out, the ESTJ will handle that too. From my experience, ESTJs (and all other SJs, really, and probably NFJs too) are really great at logistics and even if they don't actively take on that logistical role, they'll end up in it at some point.
Also, ESTJs have that mindset of "This needs to be done. No one else is doing it. Therefore, I will do it!" So in friendships with Perceivers, I've noticed a tendency in myself -- at least, in the initial stages of friendship, before "getting used to" them -- to take that perceived unreliability and try to make it as reliable as possible. If other ESTJs do that, it could be manifested in trying to "fix" you, handle you, etc. I don't know if I have any ISTP friends irl (b/c I have a friend who self-typed as ISTP but acts VERY INTJ), but with my Perceiver friends, I usually just plan around them. If they do anything that seems particularly out of control, I might ask them about it, but I'm quick to back off if 1) they're stubborn, or 2) they convince me that things will work out. <-- NOTE: I do this to all my friends regardless of type! Hence my comment earlier that maybe it's just because you're ISTP, that you're sensitive to how ESTJs try and do that to people.
As for why you're surrounded by ISTPs? I think ESTJs find people who are very honest and down-to-earth to be refreshing and fun, and ISTPs are probably the most grounded and least pretentious people ever -- and if the ESTJ is open-minded, then they also probably love how they're balanced out by Perceiving people.
Let me know if I underestimated the degree of "fixing" they've been trying to do, in this answer, and I'll change my answer accordingly --